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Ascended Master Mother Mary through Kim Michaels, September 4, 2021. This dictation was given during the 2021 Webinar for America –Towards Golden Age Relationships.

I AM the Ascended Master Mother Mary.

Consider my beloved, that we have a number of what we have called the modern democracies. In these nations, you are not allowed to drive a car until you have gone through a period of learning the laws, the theoretical basis for driving a car, and you have practiced driving a car so that you can pass a driver’s exam. Only then will you get a driving license and be able to drive a car. Yet these same countries have no requirements for producing and raising children. Anyone who has the physical capability can give birth to a child and raise that child without any prior requirements being met. Is this logical? Is this sustainable? Is this a rational approach by these very rational societies?

When you think about relationships, there is hardly a relationship in society that is more critical than the relationship between parents and children. There is hardly a relationship that has a greater impact both on people’s personal lives, but also on society. The way children are brought up has a major impact on how they become as adults, whether they can function in society. And the way that childhood unfolds, has a major impact on whether the parents or the children will need help from society, or whether they can follow a somewhat normal process of going to school, educating themselves and becoming productive individuals.

Why is it that societies have not done more to prepare people for becoming parents? I know that many societies have certain educational offerings, but they are not mandatory. Why is this the case? And here you need to recognize a certain dichotomy, a certain enigma that is present in these societies. The simple fact is that modern democracies are based on respect for individual human rights. And this is why democracies, democratic governments have traditionally been reluctant to interfere too much in people’s personal lives. It is as if the democracy, the democratic government and the bureaucracy says that their influence stops at the front door to people’s individual houses and apartments, that the government should not (as a general rule) interfere with what goes on in private homes. There is of course some interference, but still, as a general rule. This has created this inconsistency, because the underlying assumption must be that what goes on in people’s private homes is private, and therefore does not affect society.

But this of course, is not the case. What goes on in the private homes, especially in relation to how children are brought up, can very much spill over and affect society. What goes on in the relationship between father and mother, can very easily spill over and affect society. What people do to themselves in their homes if they live alone, can also spill over and affect society if they have substance abuse problems, get into crime or have psychological illnesses. You see here, that in the current situation where there is often a breakup of families, single parents raising children, people getting into substance abuse while they have small children and so forth, you see that there is a rising cost to society, of dealing with these issues seeking to help these people.

Societies are being forced to consider what they can do to this situation. What they can do to minimize the human cost and the cost to society. And there are as always, two ways, two main ways that societies can go. One is that you can become a more and more rule-bound society, where you create laws that for example, mandate that people have to meet certain requirements in order to become parents. This is of course, something that many societies will be reluctant to do, because it very easily leads to a certain discrimination that certain groups in society should not be allowed to have children. And this of course, is something that goes against the democratic ideals. You have here this one scenario, where societies will be forced to enact more and more rules, to interfere more and more with what goes on in private homes.

But there is an alternative to this, and the alternative is to do what we have already talked about, raise awareness. Realize that all progress that has happened in history has been brought about by a raising of awareness, more knowledge, more education, so that people can make better choices because they have a better foundation for making aware choices, rather than making unaware choices. This, of course is what we would like to see happen in the golden age, that societies realize that they do not have the desire or the authority to go into a private home and force people to bring up children a certain way, or to not have children. But what they can do is prevent the problems from happening.

How can you do this? Well, as we have already said, you recognize that human beings are psychological beings, and that everything that happens in people’s lives is a product of the conditions in their psyches. And therefore, if a society wants to improve the quality of life for its own citizens, and if the society want to minimize the cost of social and welfare programs, then this society simply must educate its people about their psychology and how to resolve psychological issues.

It must become a priority for these welfare states to become wellbeing societies, where they from an early age seek to help children become aware of their own psychology, learn to master the basics of their psychology, deal with situations in a constructive way, overcome traumas that they have, whether they are recognized by society as coming from past lives or not. They can still help children heal these traumas, they can offer the parents and the children psychological counseling because actually this will be less of an expense for society, than going in and dealing with the problems after they have gone out of control. It is much less expensive for society to prevent many problems, psychological problems, than to deal with them after the fact.

The shift we look for, is that there is this growing awareness that societies cannot simply assume that people will on their own grow up to become productive citizens. They cannot assume that because a person or two people are biologically capable of producing a child, they are also psychologically capable of raising that child. Instead, they must go in at the earliest possible age, and help people become more whole in their psychologies, in their psyches. Wholeness of the psyche, we look for it to become a priority of the most developed nations.

This of course, can lead to many different shifts, and quite frankly we do not foresee that this will happen first as a governmental program. We again see, as Saint Germain was talking about, that there will be this raised awareness of the need to come together and form communities, based on a deeper connection between people. In the start, there will be groups of people in their late teens, early 20’s who are considering parenthood, but who will see the need to prepare themselves better for it. They can come together, they can create private organizations, private societies to educate people and to prepare them psychologically to become parents. They can also create groups where they seek to help each other, because they recognize that given the demands of work or study, it is not easy for a couple to raise a child in today’s world. And if couples can get together and involve older people, then they can form a community where it now becomes much more feasible to raise children.

These may sound like fairly simple changes, but they can actually be quite revolutionary in bringing forth a new awareness around parenting, and a new relationship, a shift in the relationship between parents and children. In the beginning, they will of course be based mostly on a pragmatic evaluation, but it can lead to much more. Where there is much more of an awareness, and a tradition for going deeper into the psychology. And this is then, what in the little more long-term will cause societies to say: “But we see that groups of people have done this, we see that it is working for them. What can we do as a society to help this process along?” And that is when you can start in creating programs that start in kindergarten, educating people about psychology, you can start creating programs that offer psychological help to all prospective parents and existing parents.

You can recognize that a child goes through profound changes in the teenage years, that it takes a certain education of both children and parents to be prepared for this, to deal with this. But, it actually also takes that in the teenage years is when parents really need help from outside to deal with the children, they may need it when the children are very young, and they need it in the teenage years. If they have some psychological healing and awareness, they can deal with the interim period themselves, hopefully with the help of others of their family or group. But still, society really needs to step in in the teenage years in order to help children over this difficult period.

What can this lead to in the little more long-term? Well, it can lead to a break-up of what I talked about earlier. Where I talked about the family has become a unit (or is in many societies a unit) for promoting the sense of obligation, the sense of loyalty, where people feel obligated to behave a certain way towards their family members, or because they were brought up that way by their family members. And this needs to break up. And there is one area where it needs to break up in terms of the relationship between parents and children. And it is the sense of ownership.

There is today, especially in these traditional patriarchal societies, a sense that the parents own the children, and the children also have some ownership claim over their parents. In other words, there is that sense of obligation. You can see that even in modern societies people talk about “my children” “my parents” but truly, if you take the democratic ideals of individual freedom and individual human rights, no society can own it citizens. How can one citizen own another citizen? How can a parent own a child? How can a child own a parent? It is against these democratic ideals of individual human rights. When societies, as some of the modern democracies have started to do, move beyond this sense of ownership, then new avenues for helping people can open up.

You can have, as we have talked about before, a sense where a person can give birth to a child without intending to raise it. Other people can raise the child, either adopting it or in other ways. There can also be this sense that, you do not actually have to raise your child from infancy to adulthood. I am not saying that this will be a general phenomenon. But what you will see is, today when you look at this, that there are situations where there is such an intense psychological dynamic between a parent or both parents and one child, that neither the child nor the parents are thriving in the situation. In fact, their relationship is so dysfunctional that both parties are being hurt by it.

Now, of course some of these can be prevented with psychological help. But unless society acknowledges reincarnation, and makes an effort to help children (and parents for that matter) heal their past life traumas, there will still be situations where the karma, the psychology from past lives is so intense, that it is actually detrimental to all people involved, including other siblings that might be exposed to the situation. In that case, it can be a sort of safety mechanism that parents could come to a decision where they say: “We do not feel capable of raising this child. What can society do for us?” And then parents can give up the child without being exposed to the condemnation that they are exposed to today in most nations. There can also come a point where a child can come to a certain age where it can say to a counselor: “I do not want to live with my parents anymore.” And then either counseling can be provided, or the child can be moved to a different situation, at least temporarily.

You will see, that when ownership breaks up, what can break up is this sense of obligation, this sense of being trapped in a relationship. Quite frankly, there is a taboo in many modern nations, where as a parent or even as a child beyond a certain age, you are supposed to just try to get by no matter how difficult the situation is, because you are not allowed to say: “I do not want to do this anymore.” But really in a free democratic society, shouldn’t you have that option?

I am not saying that many people will take advantage of it. What I am saying is, that if you can get rid of this trauma, this pressure where people feel imprisoned in the parent-child relationship, it can actually make the situation much easier for people, because they know there is an alternative, they know they are not truly imprisoned, and this can help both parties work out the relationship in a more constructive manner.

We have before talked about the fact, that there can come an age where the children and the parents together with a counselor sit down and they discuss the future. And at the age of 12, children are old enough to do this. You can have a situation where the parents and the child agree to a contract that outlines how their relationship should form from now on. If the child stays at home, both parties agree to certain conditions. But there is also the option that the parties could agree that the child will move out of the home at least for a time. You see, what will happen here is that this element of force that comes from the sense of ownership, the sense of obligation, will be taken out of the parent-child relationship.

Like Saint Germain said, technology in the golden age will not be force-based and relationships in the golden age cannot be force-based either. Now, once you have these principles set in place in the parent-child relationship, they will of course also impact the relationship between the parents. In the golden age, there will be a much greater awareness in people before they enter a relationship where they consider having children. There will be a spreading of an awareness, an attitude that first of all, having children is not an obligation. You do not feel that you have to have children just because your parents had you, and they are pressuring you because they want grandchildren, or society pressures you to have children to promote the population growth that society is demanding. A couple will have the option to go together and decide we will not have children, or at least we will not have them until later in life, and there will not be any stigma associated with it.

But what will also happen, is that there will be a greater awareness around relationships in general. What will happen is that people will enter relationships in a much more conscious way, so that what you see from your own generation, or your parents’ generation, is that people did not have contact with very many people, except for the local community. So, a child grows up, goes to school, meets a certain number of other children around the same age during its schooling year or in other contexts, and therefore it has a very limited selection for finding a partner.

Often these relationships can seem coincidental, that you met by coincidence and you became attracted to each other and you started a relationship. Now, in reality when you know about reincarnation, they are not always so coincidental, they are often karmic, where people incarnate in the same local area for karmic reasons and therefore are attracted to each other for karmic reasons. But, in the golden age there will be less and less of these karmic relationships. Because when people work on their psychology, they do not have to be in these kind of karmic relationships.

What will happen, is that people will become more aware that they need to know themselves better, they need to know what kind of relationship they desire, and therefore what kind of a person to look for in a relationship. They will then reach out via the Internet to a much broader base in order to find a partner that is more suitable. There will also be many means developed for pairing people up so they are more compatible in a relationship. You already have these dating sites that apply various criteria, but in the golden age this will be expanded, become much more sophisticated so that people will have a much better foundation for meeting a partner. Where it is not based on a sexual attraction or a karmic attraction, but much more of a considered process of entering a relationship. It is not really a matter so much of are we sexually or romantically attracted to each other, but are we actually attracted to each other as partners who can reach or help each other reach the goals that we have for a relationship, or the goals we have individually.

What you see here, is that from a certain perspective, some of the mystery, some of the romance will be taken out of relationships. Relationships will become more like a business relationship based on pragmatic criteria. This may seem less romantic, but it will be far more harmonious, far more compatible. Will there still be marriage in these nations in the golden age? Well, there may be some form of marriage, but more commonly there will be a contract that two partners will engage in, will work out together and will sign, because by doing this they make a greater commitment.

Traditionally, the higher purpose of marriage is to get the two partners to make a commitment to the relationship. Of course, this has been perverted so marriage was an obligation, especially if a pregnancy was involved and so this has not always functioned that way. Certainly today with the different attitude to divorce, it is no longer so much there. What will happen instead, is that this will be replaced by a conscious contract that the partners enter into, and as we have also talked about before, many people will create such a contract before they decide to have children, and they will stipulate that they will commit themselves to living together and raising the children until the children are adults, whereupon they can reevaluate their relationship contracts.

Truly, all of this revolves around making people more aware of what they are going into when they enter a relationship (a love based relationship, a parental relationship) so that they do not go in blindfolded, it is not an unknown whether they can even function in the relationship. This will not only have deep positive consequences for the people because they will have far more peaceful and harmonious and constructive relationships. But it will also have immense positive impact on society, because you will not have the conflicts, the divorces, the broken up homes and the hurt children that you see today.

Truly, you may say that this is far less mysterious, far less romantic. But you can go back in time and say that there was a time where most people believed that there were supernatural creatures roaming the woods, and it gave a certain sense of mystery. People were not aware of bacteria, so they did not know why they got sick and died and this gave a sense of mystery, and this mystery is gone with the knowledge people have today. But yes, the mystery may be gone, but so are the diseases and the superstitions and the fears and would anyone want to trade and go back to the way things were?

You will see that, of course there will be a certain resistance to these changes, because people will hold on to this sense of romance. But what does this sense of romance really come from? Much of the sense of romance that people have today is partly based on the advertising industry. Where people are being programmed to seek this perfect relationship so that companies can sell them something. But if you trace this back to its origins, you will see that it again comes from the fallen beings. The fallen beings have managed to create this entire culture, where there is this longing for this desire for the perfect romantic relationship. The fallen beings have of course also done everything they could to give people these psychological wounds, that makes it impossible for them to have the perfect romantic relationship.

And so, as in so many cases, what the fallen beings tried to do is to put people in a catch 22, where they have a certain desire, a certain goal, but it is guaranteed that it cannot be fulfilled. Partly because it is unrealistic to begin with, partly because people do not have the means to actually manifest it. The reality is that this dream of the perfect romantic relationship is a completely unrealistic expectation, certainly on a planet like earth but also because people do not have the psychological wholeness to have that kind of relationship. You see that the fallen beings are simply doing this, partly to create chaos, partly to control people, partly to steal their energy by getting people in these situations where they release negative energy because they feel trapped, or they are in constant conflict.

What you really see, is that much of the images that people have of the perfect romantic relationship are really based on what we have called the epic mindset. Not in the sense that there is some epic change that must happen in society. But certainly in thinking that there is a drama that is being unfolded. In other words, finding this perfect romantic partner is like the ultimate personal drama for many people. Whether they find a partner or whether they find a partner they have conflict with, people are still feeling that they have drama in their lives. Many people still feel a need to have this drama.

In a sense, you could say that one aspect of modern society is as we have said before, that many people have gone into self-actualization needs but they have not received any help to actualize themselves. They do not have a sense of purpose for their lives and this leads to a sense of boredom. Many, many people in the more developed societies in the world are bored with their lives. They are looking for some kind of drama, to give them just a different focus for their attention, to pull their attention away from the humdrum of everyday life. This is also why you see people reacting, many people reacting in the United States to the political situation. Creating this epic mindset that a certain person needs to be President, or we will not have a country left. This is simply drama; it is nothing but drama.

You see again, personal relationships, the romantic relationship, the dream of the perfect partner is just a drama that is unfolding. You look at popular movies about relationships, and you see again how they always try to create the sense of drama around the relationship. There is always something that threatens the two people who are trying to get together, threatening to pull them apart, they have to overcome these circumstances and then they can have each other in the end.

Many people today need this drama, because they are still in that aspect of the epic consciousness. In a sense, you could say what is the entire epic mindset, it is just a drama. It is just the fallen beings who are the ultimate drama queens and kings, who are enacting a drama and people are being pulled into this. What will happen and what has already started happening in the more evolved nations, is that some people have grown away from this need for the drama. They want something different, they want more than this. They are looking at these relationships that they have had themselves, they are looking at relationships of people they know and they are seeing how many dysfunctional relationships there are.

More and more people are beginning to wonder, is this really the only way a relationship can be? Does it have to be that way? Is there a different form of relationship? Can we have a more harmonious, a more constructive relationship? Can we have a relationship where we are not in an antagonistic battle, we are not trying to put each other down through sarcasm or irony but we are actually supporting each other, we have decided that we want to make the best of our relationship by accepting each other, by supporting each other and by helping each other grow.

And this can happen when people become able to deal with their psychologies, they can make this choice and say: “Never mind the drama, never mind the romance, I want a relationship that is actually working, therefore I am not going to leave it up to chance. I am going to do whatever I can to find a partner who is compatible with my view of relationships.” Based on this, you might decide that you should buy stock in the more sophisticated dating companies. Joking aside, it is clear that there is the vast potential in the golden age for helping people find a partner, for helping people become more conscious of relationships. There is a vast potential for books for workshops, for courses. There could be an entire coaching program, where you now have coaches that are primarily aimed at business, but you could have a more widespread Relationship Coaching that is based on this desire to help people find compatible partners, because they are more aware of what they actually want out of a relationship.

If you look back to previous generations, you would see that people were not very conscious of what they wanted out of a relationship. They had been brought up with a certain view of relationships. They felt that they should enter a relationship, they should have children, they should have a home, but exactly how that should take place and how it should be designed, they had very little awareness of. Naturally, the golden age will raise people’s awareness, they will become able to define what kind of a relationship they want, they will also define and discover entirely new relationships that you do not even see today because people cannot imagine them based on what they were brought up with. There is a vast, vast potential in the golden age for experimenting with new types of relationships, more conscious relationships, for helping people find such relationships and raise their awareness of what they actually want.

This is, at least some of you will have it in your divine plan to be a part of this trend, and to help bring forth these relationships. This does not mean you need to do this by promoting ascended master teachings. You simply take our ideas and you express them in a universal way, and you will find that people will respond to this. There will be people who are ready for these ideas and certainly, you will find if this is part of your divine plan that it will be very fulfilling work for you.

With this, I have given you what I wanted to give you for now. And again, my gratitude, for your attention, for your willingness to participate in the relationship that such a conference is. Even though we are having it over the internet, you are still, all of you who are taking part in this conference, you are entering a relationship, you are forming for these three days a community, that is a very real community that exists in consciousness in the emotional, mental and identity realm, even though you may not say that it is a particularly physical relationship. But it is in a sense physical, because you are physically connected.

My beloved, my gratitude for your willingness to participate in this relationship. This forming of this community of the ascended masters above, you here below, and you connecting horizontally as well so that you have the vertical figure eight, the horizontal figure eight, and you have that flow of energy from us to you, and from you to each other, and from you to the collective, and therefore all is raised in the process. So be sealed in the gratitude of the Divine Mother for earth.

Copyright © 2021 Kim Michaels

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Ascended Master Mother Mary through Kim Michaels, September 4, 2021. This dictation was given during the 2021 Webinar for America –Towards Golden Age Relationships.

I AM the Ascended Master Mother Mary.

What I wish to discourse with you on for this release is the topic of family. This is appropriate, not only because I am the representative of the Divine Mother for earth, but also because many Christians see me, of course, as the mother of Jesus, therefore part of the holy family that they venerate even though usually in very unrealistic and idolatrous ways. Nevertheless, because of this, I have decided to take on this task of giving you some remarks about families and how they will transition as we move into the golden age.

This messenger some years ago lived in the state of Utah in the United States. Many of you will know that this is the headquarters of the Mormon church and that the majority of the population in that state are Mormons. This messenger was told by one of his friends that the way to tell whether you have entered a Mormon home is that in the living room, will be a small framed embroidery with a text, “families are forever”. This shows you in a nutshell, how the Mormons have taken the concept of family to one extreme. They believe that after this lifetime, they will ascend to a higher realm. They do not use the word ascend, but nevertheless, they will live in a higher realm along with their present families and they will live with those families for eternity.

Now, I realize that most of you who are spiritual people, ascended master students will look at your present families and think: “No way do I want to live with these people forever.” Why is this? Why is it that there are some people in the world, not just the Mormons but many other people, who believe that their family members are the most important people in their lives and that they want, or at least feel obligated to spend time with them, even beyond planet earth, even beyond the present lifetime? Why is it that you have that extreme of people who want to spend time with their families and you have the other extreme of many people, especially spiritual people, who do not want to spend more time than necessary with their families, because they do not feel they have anything in common with their families, especially when it comes to spiritual growth?

This is, of course, because when you look at planet earth, you see as we have said, so many times that there are many different levels of consciousness. If you take Maslow’s pyramid of needs, you will see that at the lower levels of the pyramid, where people have the physiological and the safety needs, these have, when you look at it traditionally, very much been tied to the family. Families have tried to support each other in their physical survival, they have tried to protect each other. And then when you go to the next level of needs, the love and belonging needs, of course, most people have at least attempted to find fulfillment of these needs in the family.

You can also look at many societies going back into the far reaches of known history and you will see that for many societies the fundamental unit of society was the family. This is true in many different societies around the world, certainly in the monotheistic religions that have been patriarchal. For them, the family has been centered around the father. And even though it was in practical terms, always the women who held together the family, they have not really been recognized as being important because the father was more important. But you do have examples around the world of matriarchal cultures, for example, some of the Native American tribes where the mother was the most important or the central figure in the families. You can certainly have families that are centered on the father; families that are centered on the mother and either way the family can then be the basic unit of society.

Now, if we then again, look at Maslow’s pyramid of needs, when we go to these higher needs we have the need for recognition. And although some people can find this fulfilled in their families, most people here have a need to go beyond the family unit and seek some kind of recognition from the wider society. Of course, when it comes to the highest of the needs described by Maslow, the need for self-actualization, well, that is when most people who have this need, who are conscious of this need and who are pursuing this need find it difficult to find the support in the family that they need in order to actualize themselves. Most of these people such as yourselves who have risen to the level of the self-actualization needs have found little support in your families for your personal or spiritual growth. There are, of course, a variety of reasons for this, some of which I will touch on.

But let me first look at why families have been so important in many cultures. There are some practical reasons for this. First of all, the fact that human bodies take a long time to mature into adulthood. It takes a long time for children to become self-sufficient especially in these hunter-gatherer cultures, or even in agricultural societies. There is no way that a five year old child can go out and plow the field and start planting a crop. It is dependent on its parents for its physical survival and will usually remain so until the late teenage years, perhaps even beyond. There are some very practical reasons for this. There are also other reasons in the sense that some of the more organized centralized societies have seen the family as a very convenient unit for taking responsibility away from the state.

You will see in communist societies for example, where even though the state was supposedly the most important, still they relied on the family to raise their children and help them survive so they could go to school and be indoctrinated with communist ideology. Many states have wanted the families to fulfill certain roles so that the state did not have to be burdened by, for example, looking after the children or bringing up children in a basic way. However, if you go beyond these outer practical things recognized by the world at large, you can take our spiritual teachings and you can look at the fact that the fallen beings have attempted to influence every aspect of life on the planet. And what is it that the fallen beings want about families? How have they affected, how have they attempted to affect the way people look at families and the way families function?

Well, as we have said, the fallen beings a long time ago decided to make men the dominant sex on the planet. They did this because men are more vulnerable to the epic mindset. And therefore, they can more easily be enticed into going to war. They also did it because from a biological viewpoint, women give birth to children, women nurse the children, and so it is more practical that the women stay with the children, so the men are free to go to war, and the women and the children can still survive. So based on this, the fallen beings projected this image of a family where the father was not only the head of the household, but he was sort of the master and the woman and the children were the slaves. They had to not only obey the father, but if he decided he had to go to war, or go on a crusade, they had to simply accept this, endure it, and make the best of it so that they could survive in his absence. And he was therefore free to do the bidding of the leaders of society, which in most cases were the fallen beings.

So the fallen beings wanted a family structure where men had a privileged existence that allowed them to take off and go to war, or pursue some other service to the fallen beings. If a man was called to serve in government, for example, or in the army, where even if there was no war, then men could single handedly decide to do this, even if their wives objected, the wife just had to accept it. And the men could then follow the fallen beings and whatever they required of him.

But of course, you also have some more subtle motivation that the fallen beings have for wanting to create these very tight knit family units. What is it that you see in many families, at least in certain cultures? You do not see it as much anymore in the more developed nations in the world, but look at many of the less developed such as, for example, the Middle East. And what do you see? Well, you see that the family is actually enveloped in an aura, a spirit of obligation. People feel obligated towards each other. They feel they have to be loyal to their family members or even to their family as some kind of abstract unit. It is not just a matter of not questioning the father, as the head of the household, but that you have to feel loyal to your parents, to your siblings, to your children and this must last for your entire lifetime.

Again, there is, as in many cases, a practical reason for this, which is that when you go back to the less developed societies, or when you go to the less developed societies today, you see that the state does not want to take on the burden of keeping older people alive. Therefore, there has to be created this spirit of obligation, this attitude of obligation, so that the children feel obligated to take care of their parents as long as their parents are alive. When parents get too old to take care of themselves, then the children must take on this burden so that society, the state does not have to take it on. This is the practical aspect of it. But the other side of the coin is, the deeper aspect, is that the fallen beings themselves have wanted to create this unit of the family as a basis for loyalty, for obligation.

There are two main reasons for this: one is that there are fallen beings in embodiment and the fallen beings in embodiment are not always leaders of society, the high and the mighty. They do have embodiments in ordinary families. And what the fallen beings always want is to get energy from the people around them. By creating this spirit of obligation in a family, a fallen being in embodiment can then exploit his or her family members and gain energy from them through their sense of loyalty. Whatever the fallen being does, their family members are obligated to support him or her, so he can continue to get their energy even perhaps continue to survive, perhaps survive without working, and so on. This is one reason why the fallen beings want this, they might call it a more personal reason.

There is also an impersonal reason because the fallen beings, of course, are often leaders of society. What do the fallen beings want from the population of the society they are leading? They want loyalty. They want that all of people feel obligated towards the leaders, whether it is a king or an emperor, or towards the state that is led by the fallen beings. You look at many of these cultures that have had a very centralized power structure, a dictatorial power structure, the Roman Empire, the Soviet Union, ancient China, and you will see that the people had been programmed, had been brought up, had been brainwashed to feel obligation towards the state, towards society. But this programming started in the family from birth. The family became the ground unit for the sense of obligation, which started out with feeling obligated towards the family members, but then gradually expanded until the sense of obligation extended to society, to the state.

This is what the fallen beings want from families. Now, of course, you can already see that in some of the more developed nations in the world, this has started to shift. There are many people who look at some of these modern societies and deplore the breakup of the family unit. There are predictions that this will cause these societies to collapse. But this is, of course, because you are not taking into consideration the growth that will happen. You will see societies where people do not feel as obligated towards their family members. You will see societies where there is a welfare system or a social security network, so that old people have a pension from the state, meaning they can live independently of their children, and the children are not obligated to take care of them. But neither are the older people, feeling that they are a burden for their children. In a sense, both parties are freed up to live a more self-sufficient, self determined lifestyle.

You see also, of course, the more developed nations who have public health care so that the health of elderly people is not a problem for them or for the children. With this, you see that there is less of that sense of obligation towards the family. You also see that there is less of a sense of obligation towards the state compared to more dictatorial nations. This does not mean that people do not have a sense that they are part of a community. What you will generally see in many of the more developed nations is that people are not feeling loyal to the state in the same way as people feel in a dictatorial society. The people in a free democracy feel more free to determine their own lifestyle. They do not feel obligated towards the state in terms of going to war, or going into some kind of government service or following the dictates of a government because the government is not dictatorial. But nevertheless, you still see that many of these people are willing to work most of their adult lives and pay a fairly high percentage of their income as taxes. And part of that income, of course, goes to support their own parents and older family members who have the health care and the pensions that they could not otherwise have, because where would the state get the money from if the working population did not pay the taxes?.

Now, you see many of these modern nations where there is no animosity or rebellion against this. Why is this? Why is it that many of these people are willing to take upon themselves this high burden of taxation in order to gain the freedom that they do not have to take care of their parents or grandparents, they do not have to feel obligated?  Well, this is, of course, because in the modern democracies, at least most of them, what you see is a growing sense of what we have called the basic humanity.  The basic humanity is something that comes from within. It can only come from within. It is not something that can be forced.

You may look at certain societies such as communism, where the entire idea of communist ideology was to create this sense of an ideal community where everybody was doing what they could and at the same time produce or consuming what they needed. And there was this dream of this great society, this great community where everything would work out in the best possible way. In practical terms, it could not be manifest. But still, even though there was a certain solidarity among the people that was in reaction to the oppression of the state. The state when it realized that this great community would not happen spontaneously attempted to force it. They attempted to force the loyalty as so many other dictatorial states throughout history have done. And you can force outer behavior, you can even indoctrinate some people. But there is a certain sense of community, sense of basic humanity that you cannot force. It can only come from within.

Now, I know that you can make an objection to this. And you can say that many Christian nations, many Christian communities, many Christian churches have this sense of community where they are helping each other in what they call the Spirit of Christ. However, if you go back to Jesus’s teachings, and I was there in embodiment at the time, I witnessed the community that Jesus attempted to create before his crucifixion, and the community that sprang up among his followers after the crucifixion. What Jesus attempted to create was this spontaneous growth of the basic humanity from within, because as people raised their awareness, they came into contact with their own core humanity and they realized, they started to see this in each other. And this is how you can manifest that sense of humanity that is not enforced.

Now, there are certainly Christian groups, where the people have locked in, even through the distorted teachings of Christ they have been given in the Scriptures, they are still locked into that basic humanity, at least to some degree and they have some sense of community. But there are also many Christian groups where they have the outer behavior, but it is forced, because Christianity has become another religion as you clearly see in both the Catholic church and in many fundamentalist churches that are programming people to feel obligated towards the church, the faith. Certainly, the Mormons that I started talking about is one example of this where they have a great sense of obligation towards the church, towards the family. But they also, many of them have a genuine internalization of the basic humanity and many other Christian groups have the same. So there is a mixture of this outer sense of obligation but also many people have that inner sense of the basic humanity and so they have some community.

But what I want to point out to you is that many of the more developed nations, they have risen above this sense of obligation, they do not feel obligated towards the state. And many of these nations, they do not have a sense of obligation to the church either. What has instead happened is that because these nations are based on democratic ideals, that guarantee individual freedom, there has been this spontaneous growth in the sense of basic humanity. Many people have this sense of, not an obligation towards community, but a sense of being part of something and realizing that it can only work if everyone makes a contribution. I am not saying that most people have any sophisticated understanding of it but they have, over many lifetimes, internalized it so that without necessarily having a communist or a christian ideal, they are just living it. Not from some ideological mindset but simply because over lifetimes, they have internalized this basic humanity. They recognize it in other people because they recognize it in themselves.

What you see in some of these nations is that there is a beginning trend where the traditional view of families has been broken up and replaced by a different view.  Now, you can look at the fact that the divorce rate is much higher in some of these modern nations than it is in some of the nations, for example, in the Middle East, where they have a more strict religious lifestyle. Some people deplore this and think it is a negative trend. But the deeper reality from a spiritual perspective is that although there are certainly negative aspects or negative causes for this, the spiritual reason for this is that people’s individual growth has been accelerated. As we have said before, in many of the modern democracies, a large part of the population has risen to the self-actualization needs. For them, growth is the most important.

Now, under lower levels, especially the lowest levels of the physiological, security and love and belonging needs, growth is not important to these people, stability is important. That is why they want an enduring family unit. That is why they want this safety, the security and that is why they are willing to endure this or even see it as a positive this sense of obligation towards the family. When you rise to the self-actualization needs, your most important need in life is not security and stability. It is growth. Without people necessarily realizing this they are looking for growth in their relationships. And when the relationship does not provide growth they break up the relationship. And they look for that growth however they conceive of it in a new relationship. And some people have to go through several relationships but many, many people have actually come to a point where they have realized that even though they may change their partner there is a certain dynamic that has not changed. And some people have come to realize that this is because they themselves have not changed. There is something in their psychology that has not changed. And when they come to that realization and begin to look at their psychology, look at their patterns, then they can transcend a certain pattern. And now they can find a more lasting relationship because they have a new approach to their relationships.

What is actually happening here is that many of these people who are going through one or several divorces are actually helping to break up the old, restrictive, obligatory family pattern and open the way for a new view of families, a new approach to families. You will, for example, see that a generation or two ago it was very uncommon that people got divorced. These people only felt a sense of obligation towards their own biological children. Most people did not have anything to do with or certainly had no responsibility for children that were not their own in a biological sense.

Today, you see many people who not only have biological children but may even have biological children with more than one partner. But they also have close contact with children from their current partners previous relationship. Many people today come in contact with a greater number of children than their own biological children. And since some of these children are not their biological children, but they may indeed be living with them, this necessitates that these people find a new way to relate to children. They also often find a new way to relate to their partners. And you will, of course, see that in many of the modern democracies, the traditional roles of men and women have been broken up so that man is no longer the head of the household but the man and a woman are equal partners in making decisions. Women often have an education, they often have a career and therefore their husband must share in raising the children, household chores and so forth.

You see that what this leads towards is a much broader view of families. A wider family in a way. Families have been expanded. They are no longer this strict unit centered around one man and one woman and their biological children. There is more of a sense of community and what this will lead to as we move further into the golden age, is that many nations will begin to experiment as some people have already done with a more of a communal form of living.

I am not necessarily here talking about people living in collectives where they share a house and live in a house and live together. But there is certainly a trend that will be growing where more and more people realize that it simply is not practically possible, humanly possible for two people, a husband and wife to keep a family together, when both of them are working. It is not possible to give children the attention they need and deserve when both husband and wife are working 40 hours or more per week. You see that there are already many children who have grown up in previous decades, and whose parents were working so much that the children were pretty much left to themselves. And there is a growing recognition that this is not a sustainable trend. But what then is sustainable?

Well, it could very well be that people get together and say: “We are a group of people somewhat around the same age. We are willing to move together not necessarily in one house but in close enough proximity that we can help each other with the children.” They may of course pull in some older people, whether it be their own parents or other people who are interested in playing this part and form this kind of a unit that is not a traditional family unit but it is a wider unit involving many adults, even of different ages. So that these people help each other. And they share many of the burdens that they have. They may even decide to build, not necessarily communal living houses, but build housing units or assemblies of houses that are designed for this purpose, a more communal form of living where there is more interaction with the people. There may be several houses that share some kind of garden that is a playground, a safe playground for the children where they can be under supervision from older people, and so forth. You can also have them create activities for the older children where they, for example, might share the cost of events so they can drive children to sports games or cultural activities and they can take turns doing this instead of the concept of the soccer mom where one woman drives her own children to these sports games and spends most of her time doing this.

There are many, many things here that I do not want to go into too much detail about the practical aspects because they will be individual for different nations and different societies. But you see that there are vast opportunities for creating a new type of family. It may not be called family, but it is where people come together, not because they just happen to be born in the same family or household but because they have a shared interest. They realize that perhaps that they have a particular interest in bringing up children in a certain way that is more creative, more avant-garde. They go together to do this, perhaps even creating schools for this purpose.

This is what will happen more and more in the golden age where you will see these wider communities that will start to form where people of like mind come together and support each other in creating a different lifestyle. A more aware, a more conscious, a more socially responsible lifestyle. These are some of the outer changes that will happen to the family in the golden age. But I also want to talk about what you as spiritual people can do in the short term,  do right now in terms of your own relationships to your own families.

Now, of course, the concept that families are forever could be transferred to the concept of reincarnation. The Mormons, of course, do not believe in reincarnation, as most other Christians. But when you acknowledge reincarnation you can see that there is a different way to interpret this concept that families are forever. Because you will see in many parts of the world where you have this more traditional family units that the same people have reincarnated as a family for many lifetimes.

There will be some of you who are spiritual people who are in this category. You will have at least some of your family members that you have incarnated with for a long time, for many lifetimes. Not necessarily in consecutive lifetimes. But if you look back over several hundred years, you have several times been in the same family with some of your family members in this lifetime. What this means for you is that you need to consider very carefully what you sense is part of your divine plan. And there are basically two main categories that I wish you to consider.

There are some of you that will sense that it is not in your divine plan that you ascend in this lifetime. This is not planned to be your last lifetime. You have other things you want to experience or contribute. You want to reincarnate again in order to help bring Saint Germain’s Golden Age into physical manifestation. This means that you may be incarnating with the same people because you have a more long-term goal of helping them grow in consciousness. This is the case for some of you, not most of you, but some of you. And this is, of course, a legitimate part of your divine plan and therefore, you can feel that these family members are part of your divine plan, interacting with them, seeking to help them grow as part of your divine plan.

But there are many others of you, in fact, most of you who may have reincarnated with the same people many times but it is now time for you to transcend any ties you have with them. This can even happen if this is not your last lifetime, but that you want to take your service to the ascended masters to a higher level both in this lifetime and in your coming lifetimes. And therefore you need to be free of what we in a traditional sense would call karmic ties.

There are many of you who reincarnate with the same people over and over again because you have karma with them. And as a spiritual person you want to balance that karma. Now, here is where you need to be very, very careful and realize that the fallen beings will use any idea and seek to pervert it including the concept of reincarnation. If you go to India and see how the average Hindu conceives of reincarnation, you can see the fingerprints of the fallen beings all over these people’s view of reincarnation.  A very rigid view at that your life is pretty much pre-determined by your karma from past lives. The reality here is as we have tried to explain in many different ways that karma is simply an impersonal energy. Karma is something you can free yourself from and when you do free yourself from your karma you are free to move on.

The fallen beings have tried to pervert this by tying it to this sense of obligation. What the fallen beings want you to believe is that if you have karma with people, it could be before because you have hurt them or even killed them in a past life. Therefore you are now obligated to stay with them indefinitely. This is ultimately what the fallen beings want you to feel about them. In other words, if you have karma with a fallen being, you can never be free of that fallen being. That is what they want you to believe. But they also want you to believe that you can never be free of the people you have karma with because it keeps you going around in these karmic circles lifetime after lifetime.

If you take what we have said about karma, you realize that there are two aspects of it. One is a purely impersonal energy, accumulation of energy, which you can transmute by invoking violet flame and other spiritual energies and once the energy is gone, it is gone. There is no obligation to the energy. The energy exercises a magnetic pull on your four lower bodies, but when the pull is gone, why would you in your mind feel a sense of obligation towards this energy that is no longer there? But the other aspect of karma is that you can have a certain attitude, certain beliefs that are part of this karma. Sometimes it was these beliefs that caused you to make karma with that person in their past life. It may not be that you necessarily hurt that person. Many of you have for many lifetimes not been violent people. You have not made karma by hurting other people. But you have made karma by, for example, going in and trying to change these people. And you have made karma not necessarily because you have done something to these people, but because you have allowed yourself to feel an obligation to helping these people. And therefore as long as you do not see them change, you do not feel you can leave them behind. You do not feel you can be free of them.

You see here that this is one aspect of karma, where you and your mind have certain beliefs that ties you to these people. It is not, in many cases, something you have done that was wrong. It is not even that these beliefs are wrong. But you need to consider how long you want to carry these beliefs with you and therefore be tied to these people who might not have grown for several lifetimes. Is it really part of your divine plan to help these people? If it is part of your divine plan, by all means, continue to do so. But for many of you, even if you want to stay in embodiment, there are other things you want to do as part of your divine plan. In order to do this, you need to free yourself from these people who are taking up your time, your energy, your attention, so that you do not have it left over, you do not have the surplus, to do some of the things that are your service in your divine plan. The service to a broader cause.

This is primarily for those of you who have it in your plan to reincarnate. But many of you who are spiritual people, especially ascended master students, especially in this dispensation, it is your divine plan that this is your last lifetime, you want to ascend after this lifetime. And in that case, you have an entirely different consideration. Because now, your view of family is that families are not forever. Families are something you need to cut yourself free from, so that you are free to ascend and there is nothing that pulls you back on earth.

You can see, of course, as we have said, there comes a point where now you are standing in front of the gate, and if you walk through it, you are in the ascended realm. But before you can walk through it, you have to look back at earth, and there cannot be anything on earth that pulls you back here. If you have a strong sense of obligation towards a family member, be it a child, be it a sibling, be it a parent, then you will look back and say: “I cannot leave them alone so I must reincarnate and stay with them.” And this is, of course, something you can feel in your conscious mind even if before this embodiment you made it part of your divine plan to ascend.

This is where you need to be very careful in your look at families, and look at whether you have some sense of obligation in general towards family members, or towards specific family members. And then you need to really look for these separate selves that you might have, that might tie you to this family member, use the tools to expose these selves to overcome them. And you need to then also be intuitive, and realize that you need to get in tune with your divine plan because then you will feel that before you came into embodiment, you made a very clear determination: “I want to be free of these people for good, completely free of them, independent of them so I can move on and ascend.”

It is very true that many people will accuse you of being selfish. The fallen beings will accuse you of being selfish for wanting to ascend. They will say, as some of your family members who are not fallen beings will say: “You can’t leave me behind, you can’t just walk away from me. You promised!” But my beloved, when you have determined that this is your last lifetime, you can walk away from the fallen beings. You can walk away from people who are not fallen beings. Regardless of what promises you may have made with your outer mind, in this lifetime or even in past lifetimes, you can walk away. It is your right. And it is not selfish because as we have said before, the greatest service the ultimate service you can give on planet earth is to ascend and thereby pull up on the collective consciousness.

If you are determined that this is your lifetime to qualify for your ascension you need to look at these family ties and overcome any sense of obligation, any sense of attachment. And this means that you need to be especially aware as we have talked about already, whether you have a desire to change other people. Or even a desire to save other people.

You will see that there is a psychological concept that has been around for a long time and it is often called a savior complex. The reason for this is, of course, that you see people today and throughout history who have had this sense that they have to save the world or save specific other people. And this is especially something that avatars can develop. Many of you came here as avatars with a certain sense that you were here to save planet earth. I am not saying you came with what is traditionally called a savior complex. But you came here with a clear sense that you wanted to bring about change on earth. Then when you came here and was exposed to the birth trauma, what the fallen beings made you feel that you were wrong for trying to save earth or change them, then that is when people can start developing this savior complex.

The savior complex is an obsessive-compulsive need to change something. To either change society, to come up with some kind of new way of doing things, or to save specific people, to change specific people. And you will see a fair amount of ascended master students, not so much in this dispensation, but certainly in previous dispensations, who had a certain savior complex, and they were giving hours and hours of decrees, because they were trying to save the world. And they thought this was their way to do it.

Now, what is the ultimate way to save the world? It is to ascend. How do you qualify for your ascension? By overcoming any complex, including the savior complex. And for an avatar, you especially need to overcome this desire as we have said, to change anything on earth. You cannot leave the earth behind if there is still something you feel you should change on earth. You cannot leave the earth, if there are still people, you feel that you should help, that you should save, that you should change on earth. You have come to the point where you are standing in front of that gate, and you must look back and regardless of what brought you to earth, regardless of what ideas you had before you came or ideas you have developed while you were here, you need to look back and say: ” The earth is the way it is, there is nothing here I want to change”. Otherwise, you cannot walk away from this planet permanently.

What does it take for an avatar to get to this point?  Well, it takes that you ultimately come to first resolve your birth trauma, but the birth trauma really opens up, as this messenger realized several years ago, for looking beyond your coming to earth. For looking at what was your motivation for bringing you here, what were the ideas, the beliefs that you had, what was the image you had of the earth and what you could do on earth. And it is not a matter of saying that these were wrong, it is just a matter of saying that now it is time to transcend them so that you can ascend.  You need to transcend in order to ascend, as we have said before. This means you need to resolve this and you need to come to this point where you have this total acceptance of free will that you did not have before you came here. Therefore you can look at earth and say: “I am free to walk away and leave the earth to the free will choices of those who are still in embodiment.”

And what has this got to do with families? Well, if this is your last lifetime, then you will have deliberately chosen some family members. Whether you were born, your parents and siblings or whether your spouses, you will have chosen some family members who can present you with the initiation you have not yet passed. In other words, they will try to make you feel obligated. They will try make you to feel that you have to save or change them and your only purpose or putting yourself in proximity with these people is to force yourself to deal with this psychology and overcome it. You want to overcome this psychology so that you can move on.

Therefore, for an avatar who is in its last lifetime, or even an original inhabitant who is in its last lifetime, the family is simply a way to give yourself the initiation that you need to pass in order to become completely free of earth. This means that you must, because this is what you decided in your divine plan, become free of your family members. You must become free of your family members. You do not want to change them, you do not feel obligated towards them, you are not changing yourself in order to accommodate them, and so forth.

This can be a quite complex psychology for some of you, and it will take time to overcome it. With the tools you have you can shorten that time. But for some of you it will still take many years. You can look at the life of this messenger and see that he started the spiritual path consciously 45 years ago, and he has been practicing or studying ascended master teachings for a very big part of that timespan. And it took him decades to overcome certain aspects of his psychology. And it will be the same for many of you. Some can do it faster, because you see the example, you have the tools, but still it can take time. But you need to recognize that families are not forever. Nothing on earth is forever. In fact, nothing anywhere is forever because the ascended realm is constant self-transcendence.

These were the remarks that I wanted to give you for now. For some of you, this can be something you need to think carefully about, meditate upon, use your intuition. Some of you may find that you have certain patterns in your outer mind that makes you want to reject what we are saying, that makes you want to continue to feel obligated and this is then your chance to take a look at this and see that the resistance that you might have to the teaching, actually exposes the very thing you need to overcome and that you wanted to overcome before you came into embodiment.

Do you perhaps begin to see my beloved, that when you are a higher developed soul, and you are planning this embodiment, you do so from a level of consciousness, that is beyond the outer mind that you have when you come into embodiment? It is as if you are stepping outside of your outer mind looking at it from the outside and saying: “What is it in my four lower bodies that I need to resolve in order to be free?” And then you deliberately put yourself in situations where you are confronted with these issues, so you cannot ignore them.

But then when you do come into embodiment, you are now coming into the very outer mind and you are now looking at the tendencies that you decided you wanted to resolve from inside. You are colored by the perception filter, by the separate selves, by the beliefs. And this is why my beloved, many times when you hear a spiritual teaching that is designed to set you free, your outer mind will resist and object to the teaching, will reason against the teaching and try to come up with all manner of arguments for why you should ignore it. Of course, the fallen beings will try to influence you in this way, they will often use other people to influence you in this way, so that you ignore the teaching.

Many, many people have been in the situation, that they have found the spiritual path, they have felt this great pull from within to engage in it but they have had a spouse who felt threatened by this and have resisted it. This has sometimes led to divorces but has also led some people to decide not to pursue their spiritual growth at all, or to slow down their spiritual growth in order to accommodate their spouse. This may be in order if you are planning to have more lifetimes. But if it is your last lifetime then you cannot do this for a longer period of time. You may be able to do it for some time. I am not saying that you all need to go out and end your relationships but you need to be very careful to look beyond the outer mind and get in touch, use your intuition to get in touch with your divine plan to see when it is time to move on and cut the ties to people who are slowing down your spiritual growth.

You may very well be able to have a certain spouse for many years and it is not slowing down your spiritual growth. But there can come that point where because the spouse is unwilling to change, then it begins to slow down your spiritual growth and now it is time to move on. Many of you have already done so. But many of you have not yet for a variety of reasons. You need to consider this very carefully and you need to look beyond the outer mind. Use our teachings as a tool to get in touch with your deepest intuition that is beyond the outer mind so that you know from within when it is time to move on from your family members.

With this, I have given you what I wanted to give you and therefore I seal you, in my great love for you. Naturally I have as the Mother of God, the representative of the Mother of God on earth, I have the widest possible view of family on earth. What is my family? Humanity as a whole is my family. You can see that you cannot have humanity as your family and have the traditional patriarchal view of family. You must have a much wider view, which is precisely what people, the most advanced creative people will move towards as we move further into the golden age.

Copyright © 2021 Kim Michaels

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Ascended Master Mother Mary through Kim Michaels, September 3, 2021. This dictation was given during the 2021 Webinar for America –Towards Golden Age Relationships.

I AM the Ascended Master Mother Mary.

The thought I want to give you here is that when you evaluate your relationships as a spiritual person you need to evaluate: “Does this help me grow? Or does this hinder my growth? Will this help me fulfill my divine plan? Will it hinder my divine plan? Will this help me qualify for my ascension? Will it pull me away from my ascension?” These are the overarching questions for a spiritual person who is intent on achieving the maximum spiritual growth in this lifetime.

This, of course, applies not only to your relationships, but to all aspects of your life but let us focus on how this can help you in your relationships. The first thing I want to bring to your attention is that if you look at many relationships on earth, and I am not here simply talking about husband and wife, but all other relationships, you will see that there are many games that people play in relationships but there is one game that is very, very dominant on earth. And it is the game of trying to always be right or the other side of it, trying to prove other people wrong.

Now, you may say, why is this such a dominant game on earth? Well, you who are our direct students can take what we have given you about fallen beings and you can see that from the moment they fell, or even before they fell, they were engaged in this game of trying to prove themselves right by proving first other people, then the ascended masters, and ultimately God wrong.

Everybody is wrong but them and they are right in an ultimate sense. You could say that this is the original game of the fallen beings. They have, of course, brought it with them as they came to earth. They have managed to disguise it in various disguises. This can range from having the ultimate ideology, to sports games, to knowing more in a trivia contest than anybody else knows. But it has a very powerful expression in personal relationships where so many people are locked in this pattern, where almost anything that happens becomes the source of some disagreement which then goes through various stages that ultimately is aimed at getting to a point where one person has proven himself or herself right by proving the other person wrong. It is so common, it is seen in so many aspects of life.

You see husband and wife doing [this] to each other, often over trivial things that really have no importance whatsoever. You will see siblings who start doing this to each other at a very early age. You see parents who do it to children, children who do it to parents. You see bosses doing it to their employees and the other way around. You see politicians doing it to each other, business people doing it to each other and you see it in virtually every aspect of life.

Now, you may say, how can this be so important to people? The reality is, it is not that important to human beings, it is very important to the fallen beings. Of course, the fallen beings and those people who got pulled into the game have over time created some very powerful collective entities that are seeking to get the people to engage in these arguments over who is right and who is wrong. But it is not important to these entities in the sense that it is important to people, or to fallen beings because the entities are not self-aware. What is important to them is to get energy and they are not even consciously aware of how they are trying to get people to argue. It is just a pattern they are mindlessly repeating like a computer running a piece of software. It is not important to the entities and it really is not that important to human beings either. But it is only important to the fallen beings.

Naturally, you as a spiritual student, you can see that you do not want to be caught in this game that is created by the fallen beings and it is really only important to them. What can you do? Well, if you are serious about freeing yourself from these patterns you need to look at your immediate personal relationships. You need to see if you have been pulled into a pattern of arguing with people on a regular basis, based on this consciousness, this dualistic consciousness, that there is a right and there is a wrong and somebody must be right and somebody else must be wrong. You may look at whether you have in yourself this self that never wants you to be wrong so that you are always trying to prove the other person wrong. Or you may look at if you have this opposite polarity, the self that never wants to force or impose upon others, never want to prove them wrong but therefore, in many cases, you take a passive approach and either do not want to argue or you agree with the other people even though you know that they actually are not correct in what they are saying.

If you see these patterns you can, of course, use our tools to resolve them and you will often find if you look at this, that this goes back to a past life interaction with fallen beings, often your birth trauma because what was it that the fallen beings tried to do when they exposed you to this birth trauma? Well, it was, of course, to prove you wrong. You were wrong for coming to earth, but you are simply wrong for being who you are.

This, of course, makes you realize that it is very important to work on this issue and to resolve it so that you can come to this point where it does not have any pull on you. And what I want to let you know, those of you who are spiritual students, is that first of all you, of course, do not want to give your energy to these beasts, these collective beasts because it is a black hole, you can never fill it, you will only deplete your energy.

But the real issue I want to bring to your attention here is that many of you who are avatars, you have gone through a very long process, partly before you came to earth but especially after, of trying to make sense of why the earth is the way it is. Why conditions are the way they are. You have taken the approach, which is a necessary approach at a certain stage, of trying to understand. It is again this, you see an effect, if you understand the cause you think you can change the cause and thereby change the effect. You look at the earth, you look at the dysfunction that is here on this earth and you are saying, “What is the cause? I need to understand the cause.”

When you first come to earth you come with the best of intentions, you have no aggressive intent. You may not have a full understanding of free will, a full understanding what is happening on earth but you do not have the intent to force others, you do not have the intent to put other people down to make them wrong. But now you are exposed to the fallen beings who very aggressively want you to feel that you were wrong, and you went into most likely one of two reactions. Either you refuse to accept that you were wrong and instead try to prove the fallen beings wrong or you accepted that you were wrong and have then taken on yourself this burden of guilt and doubt and fear about whether you made the wrong decision for coming to earth.

But what you have experienced yourself is that you came with the best of intentions, you did not intend to put down anyone on earth including the fallen beings, but you experienced that they very aggressively tried to put you down, to make you wrong. After this has happened to you, you become very sensitive to this. I could say just as easily, we become very sensitive to this because it happened to most of us who came as avatars. Now, you begin to notice that this is also happening to other people that the fallen beings are doing this, that there is a certain culture of wanting to prove other people wrong by proving yourself right in some ultimate way. You become very aware of this and this means that you often go through this process of coming to the conclusion that one of the big problems on earth is that there are these beings, whether you call them fallen beings or not, but you observe that there are these beings who are very aggressively trying to prove other people wrong and always elevate themselves to being right. You come to see this as one of the major problems on earth, one of the major sources of conflict, you come to see how arrogant these people are, how prideful they are, how gleeful they are when they can prove others wrong and how much it means to them that they are proven right.

After some time of having been on earth and observing the fallen beings you often begin to see certain patterns. You may not fully understand everything we have told you about the duality consciousness and how you can prove anything right or anything wrong in the duality consciousness. But you begin to see that the fallen beings have this way of always controlling a debate so that the outcome is assured so that they are proven right and others are proven wrong. You also begin to see that in many cases this is not really consistent, this is not really logical or reasonable, that it is based on a very selective view of the situation. And furthermore you come to see that many of these fallen beings are actually hypocrites, they have a double standard, one standard that they apply to themselves so they can never be wrong, one standard they apply to other people so they are always wrong.

You come to see that the fallen beings, again you may not call them that, but you see that there are certain beings who are constantly in a state of denial. They basically have the attitude that “I cannot be wrong” and therefore anything that implies that they are wrong, they just deny it, they go into denial about it, and therefore they can brush it aside, they can ignore it, or they can refute it to their own satisfaction even though it is not to your satisfaction.

What unfortunately happens to many of us is that we then make this determination: “I will never allow these beings to put me down again to prove me wrong.” And that means you will never allow them to prove themselves right and you will seek to prove them wrong. We see many, many avatars and most of us have done it ourselves for certain periods, we see many avatars who for a period of time, sometimes many, many lifetimes, thousands of years, go into this pattern of embodying in close proximity with fallen beings because you think that you can come to some, you can find some ultimate argument that will prove them wrong, that that will force them to see what they are doing and how wrong it is and how illogical it is and how they are not really proving anything, even though they think they are. You think you can force them to come to see their denial so they will snap out of it and stop doing this.

Now, we have said, the earth is a reality simulator. You are allowed to have any experience you want for as long as you want until you’ve had enough of it and you do not want it anymore. Why am I even telling you this? I could just allow you to go on doing this for as long as you feel it is necessary. Well, I am telling you this because there is as we have said before, a difference between what you can see while you are inside a physical body and the four lower bodies and what you can see while you are in between embodiments. If you are among the people who have decided before coming into this embodiment that you want to make it part of your divine plan to make your ascension after this lifetime, then you are also one of the people who in past lives have come to the point where you have had enough of trying to prove the fallen beings wrong.

You have had that experience for so long that you have decided: “I do not want this anymore.” But if you have been engaged in this pattern for a long time then you need to have some final test of whether you really are willing to break free of the pattern and this means that many of you have decided that in this lifetime you wanted to embody with one or even more fallen beings who are very much trapped in this pattern of proving themselves right and proving other people wrong. And you want to forget , you are going to come into embodiment without the awareness of your previous determination that you have had enough of this experience because you want to prove to yourself that you can go into a situation where you are in close proximity to these fallen beings, you can be affected by the situation, but you can pull yourself out of it.

Why am I telling you this? If you have decided to come into embodiment without this awareness, and then free yourself from this tendency to argue with the fallen beings, well, because as an ascended master, it is lawful for me to remind you of what you have decided before coming into embodiment, what you have put in your divine plan. The fact that you come into a relationship with the fallen beings without the awareness that you have already had enough of the experience does not mean that it is unlawful for us to remind you of the determination you have made.

And for many of you, being reminded of this can be the impetus that then helps you free yourself from the pattern. Now, take care here, being reminded of this does not mean that you have instantly overcome the pattern. Many of you still have a decision to make, a will, a willful decision to make. And what is that decision? Well, that decision is that you will stop engaging with this fallen being in terms of proving them right or proving them wrong or proving yourself right and proving them wrong. You will stop engaging in the pattern.

What does this mean my beloved? It means that you will have to allow them to feel that they had proven themselves right and proven you wrong. You will have to allow them to have that conviction in their minds, where they are absolutely convinced that they are right and you are wrong. And you must look at this and say: “I will not attempt to change their mind, I will just let it go.” What this will require some of you to do, most of you to do, is to re-experience not the full force, but at least have a powerful surge of this pain from your original birth trauma. If you have not resolved it, and you will not have when you come into this embodiment, you will re-experience that pain that you were proven wrong by the fallen beings.

If you look at this messenger in his life, there was a point where someone tried to prove him wrong in a very public way on the internet and he sensed intuitively that he could not really engage in a war about this but it was still very painful for him, that he felt he was being accused of things that were not factual, just simply made up and that he could not defend himself. But by not engaging in it, even though that was painful, it nevertheless helped him work through his psychology to the point where he could say: “But what is it in my psychology that I need to overcome? What is it that makes me want to do this?” And he realized several things, first of all, that he was trying to protect a wound in himself.

You are trying to protect your birth trauma by not being in a situation that reactivates the pain because you are proven wrong. Therefore, you often engage in this, we might say, obsessive-compulsive desire to not be proven wrong in order to avoid retouching the pain. He realized this and he worked on this with the tools he had at the time, which were not the full tools we have given you now, about the separate selves and the birth trauma. But he still worked through it until he realized that he actually had a desire to change other people. It was not a malicious desire, it was not born out of control, but he still thought that the earth is a messed up planet. But it is not the planet that messes itself up, it is people who are messing it up so the way to overcome the mess is to change people so they are free of the things in their psychology.

He had embodied with his father, who was not a fallen being but who had a very difficult psychology and he attempted all of his life to help his father change his psychology. He has embodied with other people who had a difficult psychology. But he has also embodied with a few fallen beings and he attempted to change them as well. Now, he saw it as being partly for these people’s good, partly for the planet’s good, and there was as there is for all of you a genuine motivation to bring positive change.

But there is also, which he realized later after he learned about the birth trauma and the concept of avatars, there is also this desire to prove that you were not wrong for coming to earth. You came here because you thought you could affect positive change. You realized that in order to affect positive change on the planet you had to help people change. You thought the way to change the planet is to change other people and you did not want to feel that this was wrong of you to come here, or it was wrong to change other people so therefore, you are trying to change other people.

And if people are very sure that they are right you are trying to shake their assuredness and make them open to looking at the possibility that they need to change—not done maliciously but nevertheless, you were doing it—you wanted to change other people. This is what this messenger realized. And he realized very clearly that this was one of the major things keeping him on earth. He had at the time already understood the teachings of the Buddha, that the key to spiritual growth is to overcome your attachments. The key to Buddhahood is non-attachment. He was deeply inspired by the story of the Buddha sitting under the Bodhi tree being confronted by the demons of Mara. He realized that the real meaning of the story is that the demons of Mara were trying to get the Buddha to react in any way to anything on earth and if there was anything on earth that could make the Buddha react, he had an attachment and therefore he was not free to go into Nirvana, or ascend, however you want to portray it.

He realized that he had to strive for a point where he had no attachment to earth and that meant, he also realized, he could have no desires, he could have nothing he wanted to do on earth. When he realized that he had a desire to change other people then he acknowledged that in order to qualify for his ascension he had to overcome this desire to change others. He simply had to find a way to let it go. He then, without engaging with this person who was accusing him, he worked on his own psychology until he came to a point where he no longer had a desire to change this person’s opinions or viewpoints about him or anything else for that matter. In other words, he had no desire to change the other person, to change the other person’s opinions and viewpoints. He really had nothing to say to that person and it was only by coming to this point where he had nothing to say, because there was nothing he wanted to change, that he was free. Not simply of this other person but he was free of the pattern in his own psychology and therefore he was free to move on.

I am telling you this not to elevate the messenger to some superior position, because he has, of course, only gone through what all of you can go through. I am giving you this as an inspiration that this is a goal that many of you need to strive for and that you can all do. You can all work on these things, use the tools that we have given you to find these separate selves that are programmed with wanting to change other people, wanting to prove something. And you can then use this knowledge to look at your relationships, identify the people in your lives who have pulled you into this pattern where they want to prove themselves right by proving you wrong and you do not want to be proven wrong so you are trying to prove them wrong, at least that they are wrong about you.

Many of you will see that you are not really trying to prove that other people are wrong, but they are wrong in saying that you are wrong. They are wrong about what they are accusing you of. You are defending yourself without directly attacking others, although you are indirectly attacking them as part of defending yourself. It is not enough not to be aggressive in attacking others, you cannot be defensive either, you cannot defend yourself. You cannot have any desire to influence these people, their state of mind or the way they look at you.

You must strive gradually to come to that point where you have let those separate selves die, where you can look at such a person and say to yourself: “I have nothing to say. I do not want to change your mind.” Then you are free of these people but more importantly, you are free of the pattern that has probably kept you tied to the fallen beings for many, many, many lifetimes.

There is no one who has ascended from earth who has not gone through this initiation in their last lifetime. Jesus had to confront certain fallen beings. I had to confront certain fallen beings, both before and after Jesus’s crucifixion. These are not recorded in the Scriptures for in my case, some of them are recorded with Jesus, not all of them—he went through many more, and you will see that ultimately at his trial, when he was accused, he did not defend himself and thereby he passed that initiation that he had nothing to say to the fallen beings.

He had no desire to change their view of him and you may think that you can set this up as an ideal that you strive for and you can discipline your mind in an outer way so that you no longer feel the desire. But that is not what I am talking about. I am talking about resolving the pattern to the point where this is immaterial to you. It does not matter to you what the fallen beings think or say or do concerning you. You can look at it, you can be non-attached to it because you know they have no power to influence the way you look at yourself. You will know who you are. You are who you are and you have a right to be who you are here on earth and their opinion of you does not matter whatsoever. This is a great freedom to have.

Now, many people will look at those who have achieved this freedom, as many people have, as many spiritual masters have and they will find that these people are very impersonal. You can take many of the known spiritual masters such as Yogananda and other masters that are known in your age, you can take many from the past, and there will be people who accused them of being very impersonal. The reason was simple.

When you have this non-attachment, nobody can pull you into any of these games that people play and here you have a person who is used to being able to pull everybody else into a certain game. Now they meet this master, he cannot be pulled into the game or she cannot be pulled into the game and suddenly, the person now feels: “Oh, he is not a master. He’s so impersonal. How can he be a master when he is so impersonal?” But the master must simply be not attached to this.

Being a master on earth is not a popularity contest. Achieving spiritual maturity, spiritual freedom is not a popularity contest. You will not be popular among the broad population. The more you grow, the less popular you will be because people will not have anything in you, the prince of this world will not have anything in you, whereby people can pull you into these reactionary patterns that so many relationships are based on.

If you look at the majority of people on earth their relationships are almost completely based on reactionary patterns. They rarely make any free choices. They rarely have any deeper connection with other people because it is all following these established patterns that are often taken over by these personal and collective entities that have been built in families and cultures so that people are not actually having a relationship with each other. There are people who might have known each other for a lifetime but they have never actually had a genuine, truly personal conversation. They never really connected, they had never really interacted personally because all of their interactions have not been between two self-aware human beings but between a variety of entities of separate selves and of collective beasts.

What you will find is that when you start rising above this so that people do not have anything in you that they can pull on, you will have various negative reactions from people—hostile reactions. They will accuse you of being impersonal, not caring about them, not loving them. You are not a loving person. Some will become very angry at you, some will become very insistent on trying to pull you in to the same patterns they could pull you in before and others will accuse you of various things but you need to be unattached to this. You need to look at it and say: “What is that to me? I will follow the ascended masters towards my ascension.” And it really needs to come to that point where it is nothing to you. It does not mean you do not care about other people. It actually means you do care but not in a way most people see it because in the ways most people see caring is actually driven by these patterns in the culture, by these personal and collective beasts so that people think that if you react with anger, or guilt, or any other negative feeling that shows that you care about them but if they cannot pull you into this pattern, then it is because you do not care. You do not even care enough to be angry.

Well, this you have to be willing to endure as a spiritual student on the higher levels of the path, and how can you endure it? Well, of course, you can work on overcoming these separate selves that makes you attached to other people’s opinion and make you want to be popular and so forth. But ultimately, it is like Archangel Michael said: “There comes a point where you have to make a decision.” You have to make a conscious decision and it is not just one decision. It is a series of decisions. You may start at a more superficial aspect of the mind where with the outer mind as we call it, you make a decision: “I see this is what I need to do so I do not want to be attached to other people’s reactions.” And it is valuable enough to make this decision but there comes a point where you have worked on resolving the separate selves where now there is a deeper decision that is not deliberately made with the conscious mind but it comes spontaneously from the heart, from the depth of your being.

But you have to start by making the outer decision and reinforcing it, and looking at it from different angles, and feeling different situations that come up where you can make the choice: “No, I will not react to this. I will be non-attached to this. I will not talk back. I will not defend myself. I will not attack that other person.” You make many of these decisions with the outer mind and then there comes that point where now the final decision comes from within and then you know you are free, because you feel that something lifts—a burden is lifted, and you look at the situation and you can look at how you used to take this very seriously, how you used to be very disturbed by this, how you used to really want to change that other person’s opinion.

And now you see, or you feel there is nothing engaging you, nothing is pulling you to do this, to engage the situation and this does not mean that you stop talking to people, but you can talk to them in a different way where it comes more from the heart, is more of a sincere personal conversation, you are actually aware of yourself as a human being and you are treating other people as if they were also human beings who are aware of themselves and not driven by these entities or separate selves or collective beasts.

You are actually treating people better than they have ever been treated and you can be non-attached to how they react to it. Some will react positively. They will suddenly start responding in a more genuine way because they have never had anybody talk to them like this before. But others will still be hostile, they will still accuse you of this and that and then you come to that point where you can decide: “How much time, how much attention do I want to give to this person. I am obviously not helping them. Is there possibly other people that I could help or other things I could put my attention and energy upon given that I have limited amounts of both.” This frees you up! Not only is that an important initiation to pass but it frees up your attention, your energy, to focus on other aspects of your divine plan and how you might have a positive contribution to make to some aspect of life instead of being engaged in these endless games with other people.

There was, many years ago, a book that was somewhat known written by a psychologist, called Games People Play. I am not necessarily recommending that you go out and find it because it is quite old but the point I wanted to make is that many psychologists have for a long time been aware of how people play these games and how they can play them endlessly and it never leads anywhere. Many psychologists have been looking for ways to help their clients overcome such patterns. They have for that matter been looking for how to overcome them themselves. “Physician, heal thyself.” They have identified many of the games that people play but they have not identified all of them because they do not have a wide enough perspective. They do not have as we have talked about, the perspective of reincarnation, that people can have reinforced these games over many lifetimes. It is not something you can explain by looking at what happened to them in this lifetime because some people are born with games that their parents and family do not have, but these people obviously have them from birth.

Again, there is a potential that the psychological field can have a breakthrough and become more aware of this, especially this game of wanting to be right, wanting to prove other people wrong and this can open up for a new awareness in the field of how to help people overcome this and how important it is to help people overcome this. This can even lead some of the more progressive, creative people in the field, to consider the whole concept of right and wrong because they obviously see how relative it is and how relatively it is being applied by different people, even in different situations by the same people and how it is being used as a weapon against other people—the concept of right and wrong and this might lead some to question more than they have done so far, this entire concept that something has to be right and something has to be wrong.

They can even question the Aristotelian logic, the binary logic that there is only right and wrong and nothing in between because after all, when you look at human psychology, when you look at the complexity of human psychology, does it really make sense to apply this binary logic that something has to be right and something has to be wrong and there are no shades in between? Many psychologists are aware that when it comes to human psychology, well, there is nothing but shades. There is really no black and white. There is really no right and wrong, it is all shades. It is all relative.

This can lead to a recognition that really, when it comes to human opinions, human beliefs and even human psychology everything is relative which then begs the question: “Well, how do you then help people overcome this miasma, this jungle of relativity?” Well, you must have a frame of reference from outside the relative aspect of the mind. Is there an aspect of the human mind that is not relative, that is beyond duality? And this is, of course, what can open up the profession to realizing that there is such an aspect and although it hasn’t been recognized by modern science primarily because of the materialist ideology, it has been recognized for thousands of years by spiritual teachers and gurus who have talked about it in various ways and with various language.

What they have talked about, that there is some aspect of human psychology that is not bound by this relativity, this dualism and this can then open up for people to realize that if you are to really help people overcome this relativity and all of these games, you must help them have an experience of this depth, this core of their own being. We have called it the Conscious You but it does not matter what you call it, there is simply that experience, there is something in my mind that is beyond the outer mind, the emotional mind, the mental mind, the identity mind. There is a part of me that is beyond even my sense of identity. It is what we have called pure awareness. Again, you can call it something else, but it is simply there. It is the inner sense, unchanging, compared to the relative which is constantly moving around from one extreme to another. It is that core that you can rely on, that pure being that several philosophers have talked about, even Western philosophers have talked about  “the ground of being” as some have called it.

There is a core of human psychology and if we are to really help people master their psychology we need to help them experience this because it gives them a different frame of reference. It can also help relationships because what is one of the most common problems in relationships? It is that two people are looking to get something from each other but they are never getting it. What is it they are seeking to get? That experience of something beyond their present state of mind, and that experience can only come from within and when you have that experience you have a different foundation, a different frame of reference for evaluating your relationships, for dealing with your relationships and for freeing yourself from these patterns.

So if you have two people that both have that experience, they have a much better probability of working out their relationship than if you take two people who do not have that experience and therefore do not realize there is anything unchanging, there is anything solid in their minds and therefore are looking for fulfillment or wholeness outside themselves, which means they can only fall into the old pattern of blaming their partner when they are not getting from their partner what they can only get inside themselves.

But this is something we may give more teachings on at some point because for now, I have given you what I wanted to give you in this installment. I realize this has been an intense day where we have thrown many things at you, but simply take time to digest it. Do not feel you need to understand or analyze or catalog it all at once. Just take some time. As we have said before, you start reading a dictation until you come to one point that really speaks to you. Then you stop reading and you continue to meditate on that one point until you feel you have gotten the clarity you can get at this time.

With this, I have given you what I wanted to give you at this time. So I once again seal you in the loving heart of the Mother of God for Planet Earth.

Copyright © 2021 Kim Michaels

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Ascended Master Mother Mary through Kim Michaels, September 3, 2021. This dictation was given during the 2021 Webinar for America –Towards Golden Age Relationships.

I am the Ascended Master Mother Mary. It is my privilege and my joy to open this conference on this topic of moving towards golden age relationships.

Why have we called it “towards” golden age relationships? Well, for a couple of reasons. First of all, we have said before that the golden age is not a final result, it will never be so that there comes a date where you can say now the golden age is manifest and then the ideal society will last for 1000 years or more. This is not the vision of Saint Germain, as he has said several times. The golden age is an ongoing process or unfolding that will last for the next 2000 years. You will see more changes in the next 2000 years than you have seen in the last 2000 years. If you look back 2000 years to the time when I was in embodiment as the mother of Jesus, you will see what immense changes have taken place in at least most societies on earth. I recognize you can find places where hardly any changes have taken place. One of them of course, being Afghanistan, as you must wonder right now if anything has changed over the past twenty or 2000 years.

Nevertheless, the golden age is an ongoing process, so golden age relationships will continue to change over time as we move further and further into the golden age. The other reason we are talking about “towards” golden age relationships is that we, of course, cannot expect you and we do not expect you, our students, to manifest golden age relationships right here and now. We are intent on giving you not a final result that you should be living up to right now. We are not in any way attempting to put some goal before you that you cannot live up to. We are intent on giving you some teachings that can help you move forward to the next stage of your personal growth, of your relationships and therefore, you can also help pull the collective consciousness up towards more golden age type relationships. But of course, we recognize that in the present situation on earth, it is not possible to manifest truly golden age relationships, not even for the more evolved of our students, although you can certainly begin to approach it.

Why is it not possible to manifest golden age relationships in the current situation on earth? Well, that is indeed part of what we wish to discourse on during this conference. You see, my beloved, if you look at most people around the world, whether they live in this culture, or that culture, a more developed culture or less developed culture, you will see there are certain universal tendencies.

Most people have a certain sense of fairness, they have a certain sense that you should not be put in a situation where there are things you do not know and because you do not know this you end up making a severe mistake. Despite the fact that you did not know exactly what you were doing, you did not know exactly what the situation was, you did not know exactly what the consequences would be, you still have to live with the consequences. Most people would say that this is unfair.

Of course, we of the ascended masters agree, but the stark reality of life on earth is that the vast majority of people are constantly in situations where they do not know all aspects of that situation and how it will affect them, how it will affect others and what the consequences will be. Most people live their entire lives in a very dramatic form of ignorance about basic aspects of their situation and their lives. This of course, is what we are seeking to change as ascended masters and have been seeking to change for a very long time, by gradually giving what we have called progressive revelation, but also by working with people in all fields of society, who are open to receiving new ideas that brings society forward.

You will see, if you look back at the last 2000 years, and look at some of the progress that has happened, you will see that a very big factor in this progress has been increased knowledge, but not just increased knowledge, also an increased awareness, a raising of awareness. As we have said before, the really real driving force behind progress is this increased awareness of how life works. Therefore, obviously, as we move into the golden age, people’s awareness will continue to be raised and the speed at which the golden age can be manifest will be very much determined by people’s ability and willingness to raise their awareness.

Now, many people, as I said, live in a very severe form of ignorance. One aspect of this form of ignorance is that they think that this increase in awareness that they can see when they are looking back, that this was simply because people in past ages did not know. There were just so many things they did not know, because they had not discovered it yet. The reality, of course, as we have told you many times over, is that the reason people did not know was that some other people and some other non-material beings did not want them to know.

Most people think that ignorance is what we have called innocent ignorance where you just do not know. But there are, of course, two forms of ignorance that are very common among most people. Most people actually have this form of ignorance where there are certain things they do not want to know, there are certain things they do not want to see. But besides that, there is the more aggressive external form of ignorance where there are forces and beings in this world who do not want people to know and who are actively keeping knowledge away from them. This of course, applies to all aspects of life on earth, as we have talked about many times, including in our books on dictatorships, fanaticism, elitism, and now ideology. What we will focus on at this conference is the fact that one of the areas where people are deliberately kept in ignorance about what is their actual situation, is precisely relationships.

If we step back from relationships, and it is necessary to step back, because for the vast majority of people on earth, nothing is more personal to them than their relationships, there are very few things that gets them more emotionally involved, that makes them feel more personally attached than personal relationships. In other words, what personalizes people’s lives is personal relationships, more than almost any other factor. Of course, the more personalized something is, the more personal you take it, the more serious it is for you, the more blind you are to seeing what is going on, the more difficult for you it will be to see.

Let us try to step back from the personal situation, your personal situation and let us just envision that we are stepping back, we are actually rising up from the surface of the earth. We are rising physically up through the atmosphere, we are rising up through the emotional level, we are rising up through the mental level, we are rising up through the identity level to the higher levels of the identity level. From this elevated position, we are looking down on earth as if from a great distance. We are not really at a great distance in the sense that everything looks small and it is hard to see, but we are outside of our personal perception filter that makes everything seem so important and so serious. We can see everything, but it is as if we are seeing it from a distance.

Now, seeing from this distance, what do relationships on earth look like? Well, first of all, we need to look at the earth. What kind of planet are you on? This is a question that the vast majority of people in the world rarely, if ever, think to ask. What kind of planet am I on? Are there other kinds of planets than planets like earth? Could it be that there are planets with vastly different conditions than what we have on earth? Most people, of course, take for granted that “earth is it” as they say. This is the only planet there is or at least the only planet they know about or want to know about. The way things are on earth are just the only way they could be. They think that the way relationships are on earth are the only way they could be. Maybe even that this is the way they should be.

You, of course, know, as we have told you many times, that there are other types of planets, there is something we have called natural planets. In contrast to this, earth is an unnatural planet, because earth is much more dense, much more dark, the collective consciousness on earth is lower. Therefore, as a result of this, all conditions on earth are much more difficult than they are on a natural planet that is lighter, where you do not have the resistance and the density.

Really, the reality is that earth is a very, very difficult planet to live on. It is especially a very, very difficult planet for personal relationships. When you look at life on earth, and this goes whether you are a spiritual person, or a person who is not spiritually inclined at this point. What we can say is that for all people, one of, if not the most difficult aspect of their lives, is personal relationships.

You look at many, many people and you see that from a very, very early age, almost from infancy and forward, they are very much affected by their personal relationships, family, siblings at first, but then you start kindergarten or school. Now there are teachers and classmates. There are other family members besides your immediate family and as you go through life, you meet more and more people. You expand your circle of the people you know and interact with, which means that as you go through life, you have more and more personal relationships.

For most people, their personal relationships also tend to become more and more personal. They might become more conflict ridden, they might become more difficult. People might take these relationships more and more seriously and it becomes difficult for them to distance themselves from it long enough to ask if there is a different type of relationship than the one they have been thrust into in this lifetime.

The reason why I want to start out giving you this thought is that the first step really, towards improving any relationship, is to distance yourself from it long enough to at least ask the question: “Could there be a different approach to this relationship than the one I have taken so far?” How can you improve or change a relationship if you cannot ask that question? If you cannot even ask the question, how can you start the process? Is there a better way? That is the first question that needs to be asked and you cannot ask that when you are so involved in a relationship, taking it so seriously that it blinds you to any alternative.

It is as if you look at most relationships on earth and the ones that are very personal, very serious, very intense, you see that it is as if they are on a track. You can talk about a broken record that keeps going around in the same track, repeating the same line of the song and then bump… and then the verse repeats again, and so on. But you can also say that people are on a roller coaster of ups and downs, sometimes the relationship is better, sometimes it is worse, but it is still on a track that never really seems to change, that never seems to go towards a different outcome. Why is this? Why is it that people get locked on these tracks? Well, here is again where we need to talk about the ignorance that most people have.

One of the most severe forms of ignorance when it comes to personal relationships, is that most people do not grow up with an understanding of reincarnation. Therefore, they can only look at their relationships based on this lifetime. But my beloved, most of the personal relationships you have did not begin with this lifetime. They go back often many, many lifetimes, sometimes even to your earliest incarnation on earth. How can you improve a relationship, if you only consider what happened in this lifetime? You may look at your interactions with a certain person in this lifetime. As an example, let us just say your mother.

You look at your relationship to your mother, from whom you were born, how she brought you up, how she treated you as an infant, how she toilet trained you (as the Freudian psychologists are so keen on looking at), what she told you about yourself, how she disciplined you, how she scolded you, how she brought you up to be a certain type of person. You look at this and you may get some hints of course, based on how she treated you, based on how you reacted to it. This may give you some idea that there are certain patterns, there are certain dynamics in your relationship. But how can you really understand the depth, the severity, the complexity and the momentum of these patterns, unless you begin to consider that perhaps they go back several, perhaps even many lifetimes. It is really only when you consider a longer time span, that you can begin to understand why people are locked in their relationships, why their relationships are locked on a track.

My beloved, look at a simple fact that many people have observed in their families. You have two siblings, almost from infancy they are in conflict with each other. Maybe they cannot live without each other, but they cannot live with each other without arguing, without teasing and without seeking to dominate. It is as if they are locked in this game from infants. If you look at traditional worldly psychology, how can you explain this? How can you explain that here are two siblings that get along just fine and here are two other siblings that are in constant conflict? How can you explain that here is one person that has one sibling that it can get along with and another sibling that it cannot get along with and this started in infancy or when they were very young? What could possibly have happened to these children when they were babies that caused this kind of conflict and animosity and inability to communicate?

But when you consider reincarnation, you know of course, that if these relationships go back many lifetimes, well, these two siblings could have been in conflict for literally hundreds of years in various incarnations. They have carried this with them for a very long time. Is it any wonder that they come into this embodiment with these patterns and therefore it starts when they are in the crib? They were born fighting with each other, because they were fighting with each other in their last lifetime and in their last many lifetimes together. If you do not understand this, how can you look at any of your personal relationships and really see what is going on?

The other aspect of not knowing this is of course, that people become quite impatient, or they give up. Some people, of course, give up because they cannot see how they could possibly change anything. That is just the way that person is and that is just the way my relationship to that person is. They give up even trying, but others are open to the fact that perhaps the relationship could change. They read a few books on popular psychology, maybe they do some various exercises or go into therapy, or whatever they do. But they think that if a pattern was created in this lifetime, it should be easy to dissolve it. When they see that after years of work, there does not seem to be any progress in their relationship, they become very impatient with the other person, with themselves and they often stop blaming themselves, or they again, come to a point where they just give up and say: “Oh, the other person is never going to change so the relationship is never going to change”.

For you, who are spiritual people, you need to recognize here that there is a tendency among spiritual people that you want quick results. Now, this is of course, a tendency that is very much programmed into the collective psychology by the entire advertising industry, by businesses, but ultimately of course, by the fallen beings. The psychology of instant gratification—it was there a long time ago. It started a long time ago, but was of course accelerated by the age of plastic, these little cards you have in your wallet, where you can instantly buy whatever you want, and pay later. This has led to this age of instant gratification where many people expect that when they make a certain effort, when they pay the money, there should be results. The results should be guaranteed and it should be quick. Even spiritual people have been affected by this. There is a certain tendency among spiritual people to think that I should get instant results from doing a spiritual practice or studying a spiritual teaching. This is greatly reinforced by many false teachings and false gurus out there that promise their people instant results.

You need to recognize that there are false gurus out there who promise people that they have such a profound teaching, they have such a powerful spiritual technique, that just a few years of practice will give these amazing results where all people’s problems will be solved. They will raise their consciousness and attain cosmic consciousness in just a few years, by closing their eyes and meditating 20 minutes morning and evening, or whatever you have out there. There is an entire industry of these false gurus who are promising instant results. Many spiritual people feel that if this really was the highest spiritual teaching and if I do apply myself to it, I should get instant results. If you do not, you either become disappointed in the outer teaching or you become disappointed in yourself, wondering what you have done wrong. But again, my beloved, if you have relationships that go back centuries, or perhaps even as the book about My Lives talks about — 2 million years on this planet, how can you expect this to be dissolved in just a few years.

Now, this is not said to discourage you, we have given you some very powerful tools in the books, Healing Your Spiritual Traumas and the others, so you can resolve many things fairly quickly. But only when you go very, very far back in time and look at these very early experiences you had on earth. You realize, of course, that those of you who are avatars, your relationship issues started when you encountered the fallen beings who attempted to destroy you for coming to earth. If you are one of the original inhabitants of the earth, your relationship issues also started when you first encountered the fallen beings, where they also tried to dominate you and make you either a slave or at least not make you a threat to their dominance of earth. You see that either way, there are certain patterns in your relationships that go very, very far back in time. How can you expect that this is resolved very quickly?

Now, it can be resolved. Many of you have already resolved very deep issues in your relationships. Many of you can resolve these issues in the rest of this lifetime, for many of you, in less than the rest of this lifetime, but you need to have that certain patience with yourself and with the other people in your relationships that things can take time. Therefore, you need to look out for this beginning frustration that some people feel because the dark forces, the fallen beings and even your own separate selves, will exploit this mercilessly. This is not for nothing that it has been said that discouragement is the sharpest tool in the devil’s toolkit. When you fall prey to this double effect of first you have the projection that you should have instant gratification and then you have the projection that if you do not get it there is something wrong and you become discouraged. Then you will be attacked mercilessly by dark forces, perhaps even by other people that will be used by dark forces to try to discourage you.

You need to recognize here that a personal relationship is for most people, the most difficult aspect of their lives, the most difficult thing they undertake or they take upon themselves is a personal relationship and the reason for this is very simple. Again, you need to consider reincarnation. You take worldly psychology, you look at a child, it grew up in what by most standards would be called a normal, relatively harmonious home. It has a father and a mother, they get along fairly well, they have a good economy, they live in a house and the child grows up in a stable environment. Yet the child turns out to be unable to function in life. It may have anger issues. It may have substance abuse issues. It may not have any initiative, not wanting to do anything. It may have more severe psychological issues.

If you take traditional psychology and look at many, many children in the world, and you probably know some of them yourselves, you can say that in the worldly psychology as it is today, there is no explanation for why that person should have such severe psychological issues. The person was not exposed to any trauma at any point in its life. How do you explain that people have these severe issues, some even from childhood, when they were not abused, they were not exposed to trauma? There was really no reason in this lifetime for why the child should have such a difficult psychology.

You can only understand this by looking at reincarnation and realize that this person has not had just this lifetime to build its psychology. It has had many, many lifetimes going back hundreds of thousands of years. Then you look at planet earth, you look at what you know about history, all of the wars, all the conflicts, all of the famines, all of the poverty, all of these conditions that have existed in various societies and you are saying: “But really, we should change our definition of normal because given the reality of reincarnation, given the reality of how this planet has been for the last several hundred years, the normal human being must have a difficult psychology, because a normal human being must have been exposed to many traumatic events in past lifetimes. They received absolutely no help in past lifetimes to deal with these psychological issues, so naturally they carry them with them into this lifetime. And that is why they come in with such a difficult psychology”.

If we would recognize this in the field of psychology, then perhaps they could get help to deal with their psychology in this lifetime but if you do not recognize this, how difficult is it to help such people? Well, those who are psychologists and who are honest will know that they are often at a loss. Naturally, psychologists are brought up in the western scientific tradition, and effect must have a cause. So here you have a client sitting in your office or lying on your couch, telling you about some issue they have. Naturally, you are saying: “This is an effect, it must have a cause, there must have been some traumatic event or trauma that happened in that person’s life. I am going to dig into that person all the way to childhood and see if there is something they have suppressed and they are not even aware of”.

The process starts unraveling, going back to early childhood, looking for anything that might even have been suppressed and there is nothing to find. There comes a point for many psychologists when they are honest, that they say, or maybe they do not say, but at least sense and they should be saying: “I have now unraveled this person’s entire lifetime, back to birth and I do not find any traumatic experience that can be the cause for the effect I observe in the person’s psychology. What do I do now?” Well, you can either abandon the quest to find a cause and just deal with the issue as some psychologists do. Or you can say: “Well, if I cannot find a cause in this lifetime, perhaps I need to look beyond it” as some psychologists also do. This, of course, is what can and will, as we move into the golden age, shift the entire field of psychology.

Certainly, one of the aspects of relationships in the golden age will be, as I said, a higher awareness and this is what I have talked about here, one aspect of this higher awareness. As we move further into the golden age, there will be a growing awareness that human beings are first and foremost psychological beings. Every aspect of the life of a human being is affected by that person’s psychology. Therefore, if we are to help people with their psychology, well, we must look deeply into a person’s psychology to find the cause for the patterns, for the dysfunctions, for the traumas that we observe. As we move further into the golden age, there will be a growing awareness of the reality of reincarnation, there will be a recognition of this. It will not happen in the context of a particular religion. It is not so that people in the Western world will suddenly become Hindus or Buddhists as many Christians are projecting that if you think about reincarnation, you will become a Hindu or Buddhist. That is not the case.

What will happen is that there will be a universal awareness of the reality of reincarnation based on work with people’s psychology and based on people remembering past lives and new kinds of therapies, some already developed such as hypnotherapy, where people can uncover their past lives, at least enough to see the cause of a certain trauma, resolve that trauma and lo and behold, they are free of the trauma in their present lifetime, but only because they went far enough back to uncover it and consciously work on it, thereby resolving the trauma that they did not receive in this lifetime.

One of the great shifts that will happen in the golden age and it is not so far out, is that we will overcome, people will overcome what we have talked about in our books on fanaticism, elitism and ideology. People will overcome what Gautama called the “ideological mindset”, where they look at life and they say: “Here is our ideology, here is our wonderful theory of how life should work. We must find ways to confirm and validate that theory, because it must work and therefore, it must produce the results that we desire to produce”.

One of the fields that has the potential to be among the first to break through this is precisely psychology because so many psychologists have reached that point of frustration where they have done everything within current psychological theory to help their patients, but they cannot help their patients. They must look at: “Well, is there some other modality? Is there some other approach that could help my clients overcome these deep traumas?” Even if they do not believe in reincarnation literally, they can still use a certain form of therapy and help their clients. Some psychologists have been willing to do this, they have even said: “It is not a matter of proving or disproving whether reincarnation is a reality. The only thing that matters to me right now is the practical results. Can I take my client through a series of past life regressions and help that client resolve something in their psychology? If it works, then I do not care why or how it works”.

This, of course, is not the ultimate approach that will be taken in the golden age. But it is an interim step that is quite acceptable. It is a practical reality of saying: “Well, if our present approach, which is an ideological approach based on an idea of how the world should work, if that present approach is not working, can we find an approach that is? Then, of course, we can help our clients and if it works, we will use it. Why shouldn’t we? If we discover some kind of natural remedy, or some kind of chemical that helps people overcome a physical disease, then obviously, we would use that remedy, even if we do not know exactly how it works, we have just observed that it works.”

What you really see here is that this shift that I am talking about and it is already beginning to happen in many people, but this shift that I am talking about is that people take a practical, realistic approach of saying: “What can help? What works? What actually helps people?” They are willing to look beyond the confines of their present view, their present ideology, their present science, because it does not really, in the end, matter so much what is the ultimate understanding? What really matters is what works. These are people who instead of taking an ideological approach, they take a practical approach and they look at how can we help others and then we do that.

The next shift, as I said that will happen as we move a little further into the golden age, is that there is a realization that human beings are first and foremost psychological beings. What does that mean? It means every aspect of people’s lives is affected by their personal psychology. Obviously, their personal relationships are affected by their personal psychology. This means that when you have a relationship between two people, or even more people, you cannot, as many relationship counselors or therapists today tend to do, look at the relationship, look at the family, look at it as a unit.

You need to actually start by looking at the individual psychologies of the people involved. What patterns do they have? There is a certain attitude that is found not only among therapists, but also among many other people. It is the attitude that when you are in a relationship with the other person and you have a tendency to become angry, then it is because the other person does something that makes you angry. You look at what is the dynamic in the relationship. What is the other person doing that makes you angry, and then you might say: “Well, could the other person change his or her behavior, so you do not become angry?” I am not saying that this is not part of the process, but the reality is and this is what will become more and more apparent as we move a little further into the golden age, is that your anger is not caused by the other person. Your anger is caused by patterns in your psychology that may go back many lifetimes. You may have had lifetimes with that other person. But you may not. It may actually be that that pattern of anger started independently of this person that is currently your spouse or significant other and therefore, was not caused by them.

What will happen is that the major shift that will begin and of course, some therapists who are progressive, creative, forward thinking have already made this shift. The shift that will happen is that a relationship between two people is not the cause of what happens in the individual psyches of the two people. The relationship is just a catalyst that brings it out. The relationship makes visible what is in the subconscious minds of each of the two people. Therefore, in order to change the dynamic of the relationship, you must go into the individual psyche of the two people and start working there.

This is a shift that is underway, but it will gain momentum and you can help bring about that shift in momentum or you can help build and reinforce that momentum. You can do it in several ways. You can do it of course by making the calls for this. But you can also do it by making the shift yourself by looking at your own relationships and saying: “What if my partner is not causing my reaction? What if my partner is only making visible something in my own psychology and it is that something in my psychology that causes my reaction to my partner”? Now, mind you, I am not saying here that your partner does not have psychological issues. They may very well have severe psychological issues. That is not the issue for you. Because the issue for you if you are spiritual students, is how do I make spiritual progress? How do I qualify for my ascension?

As we have said before, you and your partner are not qualifying for your ascension together. There is a popular saying out there: “There is no ‘I’ in ‘team’.” But there is an I, in a sense, ‘I on’, because you are not ascending as a team. Yes, many spiritual people can of course, reinforce each other’s growth and raise their consciousness together but in the end, each person ascends as an individual. You alone walk through that gate to the ascended realm and become an ascended master. That means that in order to qualify for your ascension, you need to resolve your psychology, not your partner’s psychology, not your father’s psychology, not your mother’s psychology, not your children’s psychology. You need to resolve your psychology. If you are willing to make that shift, as of course many of you have already done, that is how you help raise the collective consciousness and bring this shift, where more and more people, (because it will not be just therapists, it will also be the people who seek out therapists), will make this shift and say: “Let us just look at the individual psychology.”

This shift that will happen is actually multifaceted and it is quite profound. If you think about what I have just said, instead of looking at a relationship between two people as a unit, you divide it up into two separate spheres. This should actually be very much in line with Western scientific tradition where you always seek to break things up into smaller units. But that is beside the point here. You look at the individual psychology of each person. What you often see in many relationships, at least the kinds of relationships that therapists come in contact with, is that you have two people, one is open to therapy and doing something about the relationship and the other is not, or is at least reluctant. Often, of course, it is the woman in a relationship, (if it is a man-woman relationship), it is the woman who is more open to therapy than the man. It is not always the case, but often so. You have this situation where you have a tense relationship, one person wants to do something about it, goes to a counselor, but the feedback that the woman gets is that: “Well, we can only really do something if you can also get your husband to come into therapy”. Now she has to put pressure on her husband in an already tense relationship, to try to force him to do something he does not want to do. In many cases, it just creates animosity and tension that does not really lead to a positive result. There are of course exceptions to this but I am pointing out a tendency.

Once you recognize that a relationship is actually between two individual people, each with their individual psychology, then you can say: “Okay, I am one partner in a relationship. We are having some tension or some difficulties. Because of the tension, it is difficult for me to communicate with my partner, it is difficult for me to make my partner change or see the need for therapy. What can I do? Is my only option to try to force my partner?” No, your other option is to say: “What do I need to work with in my psychology? What do I need to resolve there and what if I just focus on resolving as much as I can in my individual psychology? Isn’t it possible that this will also change the dynamics of the relationship?”

I know that many of you as spiritual people, you have made that switch. But just look out there in the world and consider how many people there are who have never even thought about this. They have never even considered this because they are as I said, so blinded by the intensity and the seriousness of their relationship that they are projecting out: “It is my partner who is this way, and therefore I have to react this way, and I cannot change unless my partner changes”. This, of course, it is a lie that has been reinforced by the fallen beings for a very long time on this planet and other planets where they have been, because they are always trying to get people into this situation where two people, husband and wife, are each projecting that it is the other person’s fault and they are the ones who need to change and I cannot change unless my partner changes.

Why do the fallen beings do this? Because then two people are truly stuck, they are stuck in that pattern. How can they ever get out of it? They cannot. Because over a very long time, the fallen beings have created these roles for men and women. This is another thing that means people are blindfolded when they are walking into relationships, because they do not realize how powerful are these collective patterns. You may say many people are blinded in another way because they do not realize there is something called the collective consciousness that they are part of, that they are affected by.

They do not realize that there are these patterns, we have called them “beasts” in the collective consciousness that will seek to affect them individually. People do not realize that for a very long time on this planet, there has been this projection that men are dominant. Men are the more powerful, men are the ones who should be in charge and women should be in a submissive, subversive role.

Well, just look at what this has led to in many different cultures. Look at the entire patriarchal culture, the patriarchal mindset that women should know their place. Women should fulfill a certain role and be subservient to and servants of men. Is there any single idea or set of ideas that has caused more relationship problems than this? That men should be superior to women in a relationship between two people? Already there, going back into the mists of history, you have created a very, very powerful collective beast that affects all men and women who dare to enter a relationship. Already there, the man and a woman are locked in a certain pattern and when that pattern becomes more intense and affects both of them negatively, there is already a tension built. How can they sit down and have a neutral conversation about this when the tension is there?

Now, you see the situation that we have talked about, that the 2020’s is a decade of women. But you can even see that for many years, even decades, women have been more open to change. Women have often been the ones who want to try and change the nature of the relationship. But the relationship is already locked in a pattern because men are supposed to be a certain way, women are supposed to be a certain way. That means men and women are supposed to talk to each other, or not talk to each other, in a certain way. They are already locked in a pattern going back millennia.

How can a man and a woman break through this, this very old pattern, this very strong pattern in the collective? Well, in most cases, they cannot. In some cases they can and it is to the credit of both the man and the woman that they have, in past lifetimes, started to question these traditional roles. You see, of course, in some of the more progressive countries where the relationship between men and women has changed dramatically over the last several decades and women have become more liberated or there has been more equality and there has been more equality in the mindset where men and women can talk about things that previous generations could not talk about.

There has indeed already been progress. In order to really accelerate this progress, there needs to be this recognition that a woman does not necessarily have to get her husband to go into relationship therapy in order to improve the relationship. The woman, or the man for that matter, if the reverse is the case, can say: “I will focus on my own psychology. I will look at my partner simply as an echo—as a sounding box, that throws back at me what I am projecting out, even though I am not consciously aware of it. So, I will say: What does my reaction to my husband say about my psychology and how can I deal with that psychology, get to the bottom of it and resolve it?”

This is, quite frankly, a revolutionary shift. If women, and of course, some men, but if many women around the world, especially in the more developed countries would make this shift, it would have very dramatic effects on the collective over some time because what would happen is that these women would begin to resolve things, deep patterns in their psychology that go back lifetimes.

All of a sudden, when you do not have a pattern in your psychology, you are not going to react to your husband the way you did before you resolved that pattern. What then is going to happen? Well, there are several things that can happen. One is that your husband can say: “Oh, wonderful, she is not complaining and nagging anymore, I can go on living the way I am comfortable.” Or the husband can actually change and realize: “Oh, I do not actually have to behave the way towards my wife that I saw my father behave towards my mother.” He may actually change. He may change his behavior. He may even start to look at his psychology, he might be inspired by his wife changing and say: “Wow, she really has changed. Was that really because of that therapy she was doing? What if I could change also?”

Of course, if the husband is not willing to change, what will happen then? Well, again, one of two things can happen to the woman. She can say: “Well, actually, now that I do not have this reaction to my husband, I can live with him. Our relationship is not too bad. We have children, we have responsibilities. I can live with this, at least for the time being. Maybe when the children are grown up, I will take another look”. Or the woman might say: “Yeah, now that I do not have the reaction, I can live with my husband but does that really mean I want to? Is this the kind of relationship I really want, or do I want a different kind of relationship?” As we have said before, if you change yourself, then either your partner will change or you will change your partner and find a partner that has more of the resolved psychology that you now have and therefore, you can have a higher form of relationship.

Now, I have already given you a lot here. But I still want to focus on one more thing even though this is the opening dictation for this conference, but you realize with only two sessions a day, we have a lot of ground to cover. When this shift towards a recognition of reincarnation really gains momentum, there are many questions that can be asked about relationships. Of course, you could say that most people today are living in ignorance because they do not know about reincarnation. But what is the so-to-speak omega aspect of reincarnation? It is of course karma.

You are spiritual people. You are all familiar with it, but look around you in most societies—most of the developed societies on earth and they are completely oblivious to the concept of karma. You can ask yourself, “Is this really sustainable”? You have these countries that are in many ways highly developed, they have achieved amazing results compared to how they were two or three generations ago. But they are still completely ignorant of the most basic aspect of life on earth, which is that everything you do is done with energy. It qualifies energy with a certain vibration and that energy stays with you in your four lower bodies and it stays with you from lifetime to lifetime, until you do something about it.

You see here that there may be a certain physical consequence of an action you take. In most of these developed countries, they would say that if you go and you buy a used car and they know that the engine is worn down but they do not tell you. So, you sign a contract, you sign for a loan and you are thinking you are buying a good car and you drive out of the used car lot. Three weeks later, the engine burns out and the used car salesman knew about this, but did not tell you. Here is a physical consequence and most of these developed countries would say: “Well, you should not be liable for that consequence, because you did not know—if you had known you would not have bought the car. The used car salesman should have told you and therefore should give you your money back”.

Well, my beloved, these very same highly developed countries do not want their own children to know that everything they do makes karma. Karma is a consequence. Now, you may have certain things that children do that have a physical consequence. These highly developed societies, they want their children to know about the physical consequences. If you touch a hot stove, you are going to burn your fingers. If you walk out on the street without looking right and left, you might get run over by a car. These societies want their children to know all about physical consequences so they can protect themselves.

They do not want their children to know about the non-physical consequences of what they do and how it makes karma, how it qualifies energy that accumulates in their emotional bodies, their mental bodies, their identity bodies, and affects these children in very, very profound ways. It affects how they feel about themselves, how they feel about life, what they think, how clearly they are able to think, what they are able to reason about. It even affects how they see themselves.

These highly developed societies, who all know what Einstein said-— that everything is energy. They do not want their own children to know the very simple fact that they have four bodies, three of them are not physical, they are what we might call energy bodies, even though the physical is, of course, also an energy body, but at least they are non-physical energy bodies. Just as toxins and chemicals and radiation and heavy metals can accumulate in the physical body, so can toxic emotions, toxic thoughts and a toxic sense of identity accumulate in the three higher bodies. The more it accumulates, the more it affects people’s feelings, thinking and how they see themselves. These highly developed societies, for some reason, do not want their children to know this. They are actually unofficially, sanctioning that all of their children grow up in ignorance about one of the most basic facts of life on earth-— that everything you do is done with energy and everything you do affects energy that will accumulate and affect you. Very simple.

This is what is what in the East is called karma. You could just as easily call it an ‘energy consequence’. You could call it some other fancy name you could come up with, but it does not matter. It is a reality. It is a reality that could even be made visible with technology that is already there, digital cameras hooked up to computers. But even by just talking to people, looking at people, even many psychologists could very quickly make this breakthrough of recognizing that there is an energy component to a mental condition, a psychological condition, a psychological illness. It is not difficult my beloved, to look at a patient who has severe emotional trauma and see that there must be a buildup of a certain type of energy in that person’s emotional body. You can see throughout this person’s lifetime, how that build up has become more and more intense and the more intense it becomes, the more it cripples the person emotionally. How difficult is it to see this?

Just take what is already observed, what is already talked about by many psychologists, and just snap it into focus and realize here: “If we really want to help our patients, we need to find a way to help them overcome this buildup of emotional energy.” Or even look at the fact that certain people are locked in a pattern but they can only look at themselves, their lives and their relationships a certain way and it is because there is a certain amount of energy that has been built up in the mental body. It acts as a magnet and it magnetizes these people’s conscious mind to thinking in certain patterns. It cannot think outside of that pattern because the energy has such a magnetic effect that it pulls their minds.

Or go into the identity body and realize that some people are so locked in a certain sense of identity. For example, what you call narcissists, which there is a growing awareness of in the psychological profession. Well, is it not possible to see that narcissists have a very, very locked sense of identity, not only of who they are, but who they are in relation to other people? Is it not possible that this could be because there is a certain energy that has built up in these people’s identity bodies, that are acting like a prison where these people cannot see? They cannot step outside of that prison and look at themselves and other people and their relationship to other people in any other way. They are locked in a pattern. If we want to help these people, we have to find a way to help them deal with that buildup of energy. Is it really too much to ask?

Of course, again, some therapists have begun thinking in these terms, but what I am doing here is directing this impulse into the collective consciousness so that it can spread like rings in the water, so that more and more people will pick up on this. As we have said before, suddenly, a person who has been thinking about this for a long time, all of a sudden, that person experiences a breakthrough. Now suddenly, several things come together and it is just obvious that this is the way it is. With that recognition comes the willingness to try out various methods. When you see that it works, well, we may not understand exactly how it works, but it works. And that is what matters.

You will see my beloved, that within the foreseeable future, there will be a shift in the psychological profession. I am talking here in broad terms, not only people who have a university degree as a psychologist, or psychiatrist, but people who are seeking to help people with their psychology in many ways. There will be a shift, where there will be the emergence of a new type of therapist, counselor, whatever you want to call it.

These are people who are open to new ideas, who are experimental and who can actually help their clients and produce results. You will see that there will be, as there always is when these things happen, the psychological profession itself, the institutions of the profession, will ‘hunker down’ as they say, they will stick to their tried-and-true principles. They will label anything new as quackery and unscientific and they will try to suppress it. But what will happen is another revolution from below where more and more people, ordinary people so to speak, are going to say: “I do not care what the psychological profession says. I care about results and if this person can help me, I am going to go to that person”. That is what will force the psychological profession to eventually change because they will realize that they have been sidetracked. They are marginalized. Nobody cares about them anymore, except those who are inside the circle of the ‘real’ professionals, the ‘real’ scientists.

These are the thoughts I wanted to give you in this installment. They might be a big mouthful, but certainly I can tell you that we cannot really move into golden age relationships until we move into the golden age psychology, the golden age therapy. I am grateful for your attention, your willingness to again, have me use your chakras as broadcasting stations so that this can go deeply into the collective consciousness and reach those people who have been working on many of these issues, but who have been struggling to break through. They have been up against some kind of resistance, they do not know what it is, they do not understand what it is.

But now with this impulse, some of them can break through it, they can see it is obvious that there is a different way, there is a different approach we need, and they will be willing to experiment with it and go with it. Many people will look for alternatives. Suddenly, there will be this gradual shift in awareness. One of the outcomes of the decades of the 2020s is that more and more women will begin to look for these alternative approaches to dealing with their own psychology and also to dealing with relationships in general.

With this, I seal you in the love of the mother’s heart and I give you my gratitude for your willingness to be part of this very transformative event that one of our conferences, be they physical or over the internet, truly can be and have been so far.

Copyright © 2021 Kim Michaels

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