Cutting ties with your family members

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Ascended Master Mother Mary through Kim Michaels, September 4, 2021. This dictation was given during the 2021 Webinar for America –Towards Golden Age Relationships.

I AM the Ascended Master Mother Mary.

What I wish to discourse with you on for this release is the topic of family. This is appropriate, not only because I am the representative of the Divine Mother for earth, but also because many Christians see me, of course, as the mother of Jesus, therefore part of the holy family that they venerate even though usually in very unrealistic and idolatrous ways. Nevertheless, because of this, I have decided to take on this task of giving you some remarks about families and how they will transition as we move into the golden age.

This messenger some years ago lived in the state of Utah in the United States. Many of you will know that this is the headquarters of the Mormon church and that the majority of the population in that state are Mormons. This messenger was told by one of his friends that the way to tell whether you have entered a Mormon home is that in the living room, will be a small framed embroidery with a text, “families are forever”. This shows you in a nutshell, how the Mormons have taken the concept of family to one extreme. They believe that after this lifetime, they will ascend to a higher realm. They do not use the word ascend, but nevertheless, they will live in a higher realm along with their present families and they will live with those families for eternity.

Now, I realize that most of you who are spiritual people, ascended master students will look at your present families and think: “No way do I want to live with these people forever.” Why is this? Why is it that there are some people in the world, not just the Mormons but many other people, who believe that their family members are the most important people in their lives and that they want, or at least feel obligated to spend time with them, even beyond planet earth, even beyond the present lifetime? Why is it that you have that extreme of people who want to spend time with their families and you have the other extreme of many people, especially spiritual people, who do not want to spend more time than necessary with their families, because they do not feel they have anything in common with their families, especially when it comes to spiritual growth?

This is, of course, because when you look at planet earth, you see as we have said, so many times that there are many different levels of consciousness. If you take Maslow’s pyramid of needs, you will see that at the lower levels of the pyramid, where people have the physiological and the safety needs, these have, when you look at it traditionally, very much been tied to the family. Families have tried to support each other in their physical survival, they have tried to protect each other. And then when you go to the next level of needs, the love and belonging needs, of course, most people have at least attempted to find fulfillment of these needs in the family.

You can also look at many societies going back into the far reaches of known history and you will see that for many societies the fundamental unit of society was the family. This is true in many different societies around the world, certainly in the monotheistic religions that have been patriarchal. For them, the family has been centered around the father. And even though it was in practical terms, always the women who held together the family, they have not really been recognized as being important because the father was more important. But you do have examples around the world of matriarchal cultures, for example, some of the Native American tribes where the mother was the most important or the central figure in the families. You can certainly have families that are centered on the father; families that are centered on the mother and either way the family can then be the basic unit of society.

Now, if we then again, look at Maslow’s pyramid of needs, when we go to these higher needs we have the need for recognition. And although some people can find this fulfilled in their families, most people here have a need to go beyond the family unit and seek some kind of recognition from the wider society. Of course, when it comes to the highest of the needs described by Maslow, the need for self-actualization, well, that is when most people who have this need, who are conscious of this need and who are pursuing this need find it difficult to find the support in the family that they need in order to actualize themselves. Most of these people such as yourselves who have risen to the level of the self-actualization needs have found little support in your families for your personal or spiritual growth. There are, of course, a variety of reasons for this, some of which I will touch on.

But let me first look at why families have been so important in many cultures. There are some practical reasons for this. First of all, the fact that human bodies take a long time to mature into adulthood. It takes a long time for children to become self-sufficient especially in these hunter-gatherer cultures, or even in agricultural societies. There is no way that a five year old child can go out and plow the field and start planting a crop. It is dependent on its parents for its physical survival and will usually remain so until the late teenage years, perhaps even beyond. There are some very practical reasons for this. There are also other reasons in the sense that some of the more organized centralized societies have seen the family as a very convenient unit for taking responsibility away from the state.

You will see in communist societies for example, where even though the state was supposedly the most important, still they relied on the family to raise their children and help them survive so they could go to school and be indoctrinated with communist ideology. Many states have wanted the families to fulfill certain roles so that the state did not have to be burdened by, for example, looking after the children or bringing up children in a basic way. However, if you go beyond these outer practical things recognized by the world at large, you can take our spiritual teachings and you can look at the fact that the fallen beings have attempted to influence every aspect of life on the planet. And what is it that the fallen beings want about families? How have they affected, how have they attempted to affect the way people look at families and the way families function?

Well, as we have said, the fallen beings a long time ago decided to make men the dominant sex on the planet. They did this because men are more vulnerable to the epic mindset. And therefore, they can more easily be enticed into going to war. They also did it because from a biological viewpoint, women give birth to children, women nurse the children, and so it is more practical that the women stay with the children, so the men are free to go to war, and the women and the children can still survive. So based on this, the fallen beings projected this image of a family where the father was not only the head of the household, but he was sort of the master and the woman and the children were the slaves. They had to not only obey the father, but if he decided he had to go to war, or go on a crusade, they had to simply accept this, endure it, and make the best of it so that they could survive in his absence. And he was therefore free to do the bidding of the leaders of society, which in most cases were the fallen beings.

So the fallen beings wanted a family structure where men had a privileged existence that allowed them to take off and go to war, or pursue some other service to the fallen beings. If a man was called to serve in government, for example, or in the army, where even if there was no war, then men could single handedly decide to do this, even if their wives objected, the wife just had to accept it. And the men could then follow the fallen beings and whatever they required of him.

But of course, you also have some more subtle motivation that the fallen beings have for wanting to create these very tight knit family units. What is it that you see in many families, at least in certain cultures? You do not see it as much anymore in the more developed nations in the world, but look at many of the less developed such as, for example, the Middle East. And what do you see? Well, you see that the family is actually enveloped in an aura, a spirit of obligation. People feel obligated towards each other. They feel they have to be loyal to their family members or even to their family as some kind of abstract unit. It is not just a matter of not questioning the father, as the head of the household, but that you have to feel loyal to your parents, to your siblings, to your children and this must last for your entire lifetime.

Again, there is, as in many cases, a practical reason for this, which is that when you go back to the less developed societies, or when you go to the less developed societies today, you see that the state does not want to take on the burden of keeping older people alive. Therefore, there has to be created this spirit of obligation, this attitude of obligation, so that the children feel obligated to take care of their parents as long as their parents are alive. When parents get too old to take care of themselves, then the children must take on this burden so that society, the state does not have to take it on. This is the practical aspect of it. But the other side of the coin is, the deeper aspect, is that the fallen beings themselves have wanted to create this unit of the family as a basis for loyalty, for obligation.

There are two main reasons for this: one is that there are fallen beings in embodiment and the fallen beings in embodiment are not always leaders of society, the high and the mighty. They do have embodiments in ordinary families. And what the fallen beings always want is to get energy from the people around them. By creating this spirit of obligation in a family, a fallen being in embodiment can then exploit his or her family members and gain energy from them through their sense of loyalty. Whatever the fallen being does, their family members are obligated to support him or her, so he can continue to get their energy even perhaps continue to survive, perhaps survive without working, and so on. This is one reason why the fallen beings want this, they might call it a more personal reason.

There is also an impersonal reason because the fallen beings, of course, are often leaders of society. What do the fallen beings want from the population of the society they are leading? They want loyalty. They want that all of people feel obligated towards the leaders, whether it is a king or an emperor, or towards the state that is led by the fallen beings. You look at many of these cultures that have had a very centralized power structure, a dictatorial power structure, the Roman Empire, the Soviet Union, ancient China, and you will see that the people had been programmed, had been brought up, had been brainwashed to feel obligation towards the state, towards society. But this programming started in the family from birth. The family became the ground unit for the sense of obligation, which started out with feeling obligated towards the family members, but then gradually expanded until the sense of obligation extended to society, to the state.

This is what the fallen beings want from families. Now, of course, you can already see that in some of the more developed nations in the world, this has started to shift. There are many people who look at some of these modern societies and deplore the breakup of the family unit. There are predictions that this will cause these societies to collapse. But this is, of course, because you are not taking into consideration the growth that will happen. You will see societies where people do not feel as obligated towards their family members. You will see societies where there is a welfare system or a social security network, so that old people have a pension from the state, meaning they can live independently of their children, and the children are not obligated to take care of them. But neither are the older people, feeling that they are a burden for their children. In a sense, both parties are freed up to live a more self-sufficient, self determined lifestyle.

You see also, of course, the more developed nations who have public health care so that the health of elderly people is not a problem for them or for the children. With this, you see that there is less of that sense of obligation towards the family. You also see that there is less of a sense of obligation towards the state compared to more dictatorial nations. This does not mean that people do not have a sense that they are part of a community. What you will generally see in many of the more developed nations is that people are not feeling loyal to the state in the same way as people feel in a dictatorial society. The people in a free democracy feel more free to determine their own lifestyle. They do not feel obligated towards the state in terms of going to war, or going into some kind of government service or following the dictates of a government because the government is not dictatorial. But nevertheless, you still see that many of these people are willing to work most of their adult lives and pay a fairly high percentage of their income as taxes. And part of that income, of course, goes to support their own parents and older family members who have the health care and the pensions that they could not otherwise have, because where would the state get the money from if the working population did not pay the taxes?.

Now, you see many of these modern nations where there is no animosity or rebellion against this. Why is this? Why is it that many of these people are willing to take upon themselves this high burden of taxation in order to gain the freedom that they do not have to take care of their parents or grandparents, they do not have to feel obligated?  Well, this is, of course, because in the modern democracies, at least most of them, what you see is a growing sense of what we have called the basic humanity.  The basic humanity is something that comes from within. It can only come from within. It is not something that can be forced.

You may look at certain societies such as communism, where the entire idea of communist ideology was to create this sense of an ideal community where everybody was doing what they could and at the same time produce or consuming what they needed. And there was this dream of this great society, this great community where everything would work out in the best possible way. In practical terms, it could not be manifest. But still, even though there was a certain solidarity among the people that was in reaction to the oppression of the state. The state when it realized that this great community would not happen spontaneously attempted to force it. They attempted to force the loyalty as so many other dictatorial states throughout history have done. And you can force outer behavior, you can even indoctrinate some people. But there is a certain sense of community, sense of basic humanity that you cannot force. It can only come from within.

Now, I know that you can make an objection to this. And you can say that many Christian nations, many Christian communities, many Christian churches have this sense of community where they are helping each other in what they call the Spirit of Christ. However, if you go back to Jesus’s teachings, and I was there in embodiment at the time, I witnessed the community that Jesus attempted to create before his crucifixion, and the community that sprang up among his followers after the crucifixion. What Jesus attempted to create was this spontaneous growth of the basic humanity from within, because as people raised their awareness, they came into contact with their own core humanity and they realized, they started to see this in each other. And this is how you can manifest that sense of humanity that is not enforced.

Now, there are certainly Christian groups, where the people have locked in, even through the distorted teachings of Christ they have been given in the Scriptures, they are still locked into that basic humanity, at least to some degree and they have some sense of community. But there are also many Christian groups where they have the outer behavior, but it is forced, because Christianity has become another religion as you clearly see in both the Catholic church and in many fundamentalist churches that are programming people to feel obligated towards the church, the faith. Certainly, the Mormons that I started talking about is one example of this where they have a great sense of obligation towards the church, towards the family. But they also, many of them have a genuine internalization of the basic humanity and many other Christian groups have the same. So there is a mixture of this outer sense of obligation but also many people have that inner sense of the basic humanity and so they have some community.

But what I want to point out to you is that many of the more developed nations, they have risen above this sense of obligation, they do not feel obligated towards the state. And many of these nations, they do not have a sense of obligation to the church either. What has instead happened is that because these nations are based on democratic ideals, that guarantee individual freedom, there has been this spontaneous growth in the sense of basic humanity. Many people have this sense of, not an obligation towards community, but a sense of being part of something and realizing that it can only work if everyone makes a contribution. I am not saying that most people have any sophisticated understanding of it but they have, over many lifetimes, internalized it so that without necessarily having a communist or a christian ideal, they are just living it. Not from some ideological mindset but simply because over lifetimes, they have internalized this basic humanity. They recognize it in other people because they recognize it in themselves.

What you see in some of these nations is that there is a beginning trend where the traditional view of families has been broken up and replaced by a different view.  Now, you can look at the fact that the divorce rate is much higher in some of these modern nations than it is in some of the nations, for example, in the Middle East, where they have a more strict religious lifestyle. Some people deplore this and think it is a negative trend. But the deeper reality from a spiritual perspective is that although there are certainly negative aspects or negative causes for this, the spiritual reason for this is that people’s individual growth has been accelerated. As we have said before, in many of the modern democracies, a large part of the population has risen to the self-actualization needs. For them, growth is the most important.

Now, under lower levels, especially the lowest levels of the physiological, security and love and belonging needs, growth is not important to these people, stability is important. That is why they want an enduring family unit. That is why they want this safety, the security and that is why they are willing to endure this or even see it as a positive this sense of obligation towards the family. When you rise to the self-actualization needs, your most important need in life is not security and stability. It is growth. Without people necessarily realizing this they are looking for growth in their relationships. And when the relationship does not provide growth they break up the relationship. And they look for that growth however they conceive of it in a new relationship. And some people have to go through several relationships but many, many people have actually come to a point where they have realized that even though they may change their partner there is a certain dynamic that has not changed. And some people have come to realize that this is because they themselves have not changed. There is something in their psychology that has not changed. And when they come to that realization and begin to look at their psychology, look at their patterns, then they can transcend a certain pattern. And now they can find a more lasting relationship because they have a new approach to their relationships.

What is actually happening here is that many of these people who are going through one or several divorces are actually helping to break up the old, restrictive, obligatory family pattern and open the way for a new view of families, a new approach to families. You will, for example, see that a generation or two ago it was very uncommon that people got divorced. These people only felt a sense of obligation towards their own biological children. Most people did not have anything to do with or certainly had no responsibility for children that were not their own in a biological sense.

Today, you see many people who not only have biological children but may even have biological children with more than one partner. But they also have close contact with children from their current partners previous relationship. Many people today come in contact with a greater number of children than their own biological children. And since some of these children are not their biological children, but they may indeed be living with them, this necessitates that these people find a new way to relate to children. They also often find a new way to relate to their partners. And you will, of course, see that in many of the modern democracies, the traditional roles of men and women have been broken up so that man is no longer the head of the household but the man and a woman are equal partners in making decisions. Women often have an education, they often have a career and therefore their husband must share in raising the children, household chores and so forth.

You see that what this leads towards is a much broader view of families. A wider family in a way. Families have been expanded. They are no longer this strict unit centered around one man and one woman and their biological children. There is more of a sense of community and what this will lead to as we move further into the golden age, is that many nations will begin to experiment as some people have already done with a more of a communal form of living.

I am not necessarily here talking about people living in collectives where they share a house and live in a house and live together. But there is certainly a trend that will be growing where more and more people realize that it simply is not practically possible, humanly possible for two people, a husband and wife to keep a family together, when both of them are working. It is not possible to give children the attention they need and deserve when both husband and wife are working 40 hours or more per week. You see that there are already many children who have grown up in previous decades, and whose parents were working so much that the children were pretty much left to themselves. And there is a growing recognition that this is not a sustainable trend. But what then is sustainable?

Well, it could very well be that people get together and say: “We are a group of people somewhat around the same age. We are willing to move together not necessarily in one house but in close enough proximity that we can help each other with the children.” They may of course pull in some older people, whether it be their own parents or other people who are interested in playing this part and form this kind of a unit that is not a traditional family unit but it is a wider unit involving many adults, even of different ages. So that these people help each other. And they share many of the burdens that they have. They may even decide to build, not necessarily communal living houses, but build housing units or assemblies of houses that are designed for this purpose, a more communal form of living where there is more interaction with the people. There may be several houses that share some kind of garden that is a playground, a safe playground for the children where they can be under supervision from older people, and so forth. You can also have them create activities for the older children where they, for example, might share the cost of events so they can drive children to sports games or cultural activities and they can take turns doing this instead of the concept of the soccer mom where one woman drives her own children to these sports games and spends most of her time doing this.

There are many, many things here that I do not want to go into too much detail about the practical aspects because they will be individual for different nations and different societies. But you see that there are vast opportunities for creating a new type of family. It may not be called family, but it is where people come together, not because they just happen to be born in the same family or household but because they have a shared interest. They realize that perhaps that they have a particular interest in bringing up children in a certain way that is more creative, more avant-garde. They go together to do this, perhaps even creating schools for this purpose.

This is what will happen more and more in the golden age where you will see these wider communities that will start to form where people of like mind come together and support each other in creating a different lifestyle. A more aware, a more conscious, a more socially responsible lifestyle. These are some of the outer changes that will happen to the family in the golden age. But I also want to talk about what you as spiritual people can do in the short term,  do right now in terms of your own relationships to your own families.

Now, of course, the concept that families are forever could be transferred to the concept of reincarnation. The Mormons, of course, do not believe in reincarnation, as most other Christians. But when you acknowledge reincarnation you can see that there is a different way to interpret this concept that families are forever. Because you will see in many parts of the world where you have this more traditional family units that the same people have reincarnated as a family for many lifetimes.

There will be some of you who are spiritual people who are in this category. You will have at least some of your family members that you have incarnated with for a long time, for many lifetimes. Not necessarily in consecutive lifetimes. But if you look back over several hundred years, you have several times been in the same family with some of your family members in this lifetime. What this means for you is that you need to consider very carefully what you sense is part of your divine plan. And there are basically two main categories that I wish you to consider.

There are some of you that will sense that it is not in your divine plan that you ascend in this lifetime. This is not planned to be your last lifetime. You have other things you want to experience or contribute. You want to reincarnate again in order to help bring Saint Germain’s Golden Age into physical manifestation. This means that you may be incarnating with the same people because you have a more long-term goal of helping them grow in consciousness. This is the case for some of you, not most of you, but some of you. And this is, of course, a legitimate part of your divine plan and therefore, you can feel that these family members are part of your divine plan, interacting with them, seeking to help them grow as part of your divine plan.

But there are many others of you, in fact, most of you who may have reincarnated with the same people many times but it is now time for you to transcend any ties you have with them. This can even happen if this is not your last lifetime, but that you want to take your service to the ascended masters to a higher level both in this lifetime and in your coming lifetimes. And therefore you need to be free of what we in a traditional sense would call karmic ties.

There are many of you who reincarnate with the same people over and over again because you have karma with them. And as a spiritual person you want to balance that karma. Now, here is where you need to be very, very careful and realize that the fallen beings will use any idea and seek to pervert it including the concept of reincarnation. If you go to India and see how the average Hindu conceives of reincarnation, you can see the fingerprints of the fallen beings all over these people’s view of reincarnation.  A very rigid view at that your life is pretty much pre-determined by your karma from past lives. The reality here is as we have tried to explain in many different ways that karma is simply an impersonal energy. Karma is something you can free yourself from and when you do free yourself from your karma you are free to move on.

The fallen beings have tried to pervert this by tying it to this sense of obligation. What the fallen beings want you to believe is that if you have karma with people, it could be before because you have hurt them or even killed them in a past life. Therefore you are now obligated to stay with them indefinitely. This is ultimately what the fallen beings want you to feel about them. In other words, if you have karma with a fallen being, you can never be free of that fallen being. That is what they want you to believe. But they also want you to believe that you can never be free of the people you have karma with because it keeps you going around in these karmic circles lifetime after lifetime.

If you take what we have said about karma, you realize that there are two aspects of it. One is a purely impersonal energy, accumulation of energy, which you can transmute by invoking violet flame and other spiritual energies and once the energy is gone, it is gone. There is no obligation to the energy. The energy exercises a magnetic pull on your four lower bodies, but when the pull is gone, why would you in your mind feel a sense of obligation towards this energy that is no longer there? But the other aspect of karma is that you can have a certain attitude, certain beliefs that are part of this karma. Sometimes it was these beliefs that caused you to make karma with that person in their past life. It may not be that you necessarily hurt that person. Many of you have for many lifetimes not been violent people. You have not made karma by hurting other people. But you have made karma by, for example, going in and trying to change these people. And you have made karma not necessarily because you have done something to these people, but because you have allowed yourself to feel an obligation to helping these people. And therefore as long as you do not see them change, you do not feel you can leave them behind. You do not feel you can be free of them.

You see here that this is one aspect of karma, where you and your mind have certain beliefs that ties you to these people. It is not, in many cases, something you have done that was wrong. It is not even that these beliefs are wrong. But you need to consider how long you want to carry these beliefs with you and therefore be tied to these people who might not have grown for several lifetimes. Is it really part of your divine plan to help these people? If it is part of your divine plan, by all means, continue to do so. But for many of you, even if you want to stay in embodiment, there are other things you want to do as part of your divine plan. In order to do this, you need to free yourself from these people who are taking up your time, your energy, your attention, so that you do not have it left over, you do not have the surplus, to do some of the things that are your service in your divine plan. The service to a broader cause.

This is primarily for those of you who have it in your plan to reincarnate. But many of you who are spiritual people, especially ascended master students, especially in this dispensation, it is your divine plan that this is your last lifetime, you want to ascend after this lifetime. And in that case, you have an entirely different consideration. Because now, your view of family is that families are not forever. Families are something you need to cut yourself free from, so that you are free to ascend and there is nothing that pulls you back on earth.

You can see, of course, as we have said, there comes a point where now you are standing in front of the gate, and if you walk through it, you are in the ascended realm. But before you can walk through it, you have to look back at earth, and there cannot be anything on earth that pulls you back here. If you have a strong sense of obligation towards a family member, be it a child, be it a sibling, be it a parent, then you will look back and say: “I cannot leave them alone so I must reincarnate and stay with them.” And this is, of course, something you can feel in your conscious mind even if before this embodiment you made it part of your divine plan to ascend.

This is where you need to be very careful in your look at families, and look at whether you have some sense of obligation in general towards family members, or towards specific family members. And then you need to really look for these separate selves that you might have, that might tie you to this family member, use the tools to expose these selves to overcome them. And you need to then also be intuitive, and realize that you need to get in tune with your divine plan because then you will feel that before you came into embodiment, you made a very clear determination: “I want to be free of these people for good, completely free of them, independent of them so I can move on and ascend.”

It is very true that many people will accuse you of being selfish. The fallen beings will accuse you of being selfish for wanting to ascend. They will say, as some of your family members who are not fallen beings will say: “You can’t leave me behind, you can’t just walk away from me. You promised!” But my beloved, when you have determined that this is your last lifetime, you can walk away from the fallen beings. You can walk away from people who are not fallen beings. Regardless of what promises you may have made with your outer mind, in this lifetime or even in past lifetimes, you can walk away. It is your right. And it is not selfish because as we have said before, the greatest service the ultimate service you can give on planet earth is to ascend and thereby pull up on the collective consciousness.

If you are determined that this is your lifetime to qualify for your ascension you need to look at these family ties and overcome any sense of obligation, any sense of attachment. And this means that you need to be especially aware as we have talked about already, whether you have a desire to change other people. Or even a desire to save other people.

You will see that there is a psychological concept that has been around for a long time and it is often called a savior complex. The reason for this is, of course, that you see people today and throughout history who have had this sense that they have to save the world or save specific other people. And this is especially something that avatars can develop. Many of you came here as avatars with a certain sense that you were here to save planet earth. I am not saying you came with what is traditionally called a savior complex. But you came here with a clear sense that you wanted to bring about change on earth. Then when you came here and was exposed to the birth trauma, what the fallen beings made you feel that you were wrong for trying to save earth or change them, then that is when people can start developing this savior complex.

The savior complex is an obsessive-compulsive need to change something. To either change society, to come up with some kind of new way of doing things, or to save specific people, to change specific people. And you will see a fair amount of ascended master students, not so much in this dispensation, but certainly in previous dispensations, who had a certain savior complex, and they were giving hours and hours of decrees, because they were trying to save the world. And they thought this was their way to do it.

Now, what is the ultimate way to save the world? It is to ascend. How do you qualify for your ascension? By overcoming any complex, including the savior complex. And for an avatar, you especially need to overcome this desire as we have said, to change anything on earth. You cannot leave the earth behind if there is still something you feel you should change on earth. You cannot leave the earth, if there are still people, you feel that you should help, that you should save, that you should change on earth. You have come to the point where you are standing in front of that gate, and you must look back and regardless of what brought you to earth, regardless of what ideas you had before you came or ideas you have developed while you were here, you need to look back and say: ” The earth is the way it is, there is nothing here I want to change”. Otherwise, you cannot walk away from this planet permanently.

What does it take for an avatar to get to this point?  Well, it takes that you ultimately come to first resolve your birth trauma, but the birth trauma really opens up, as this messenger realized several years ago, for looking beyond your coming to earth. For looking at what was your motivation for bringing you here, what were the ideas, the beliefs that you had, what was the image you had of the earth and what you could do on earth. And it is not a matter of saying that these were wrong, it is just a matter of saying that now it is time to transcend them so that you can ascend.  You need to transcend in order to ascend, as we have said before. This means you need to resolve this and you need to come to this point where you have this total acceptance of free will that you did not have before you came here. Therefore you can look at earth and say: “I am free to walk away and leave the earth to the free will choices of those who are still in embodiment.”

And what has this got to do with families? Well, if this is your last lifetime, then you will have deliberately chosen some family members. Whether you were born, your parents and siblings or whether your spouses, you will have chosen some family members who can present you with the initiation you have not yet passed. In other words, they will try to make you feel obligated. They will try make you to feel that you have to save or change them and your only purpose or putting yourself in proximity with these people is to force yourself to deal with this psychology and overcome it. You want to overcome this psychology so that you can move on.

Therefore, for an avatar who is in its last lifetime, or even an original inhabitant who is in its last lifetime, the family is simply a way to give yourself the initiation that you need to pass in order to become completely free of earth. This means that you must, because this is what you decided in your divine plan, become free of your family members. You must become free of your family members. You do not want to change them, you do not feel obligated towards them, you are not changing yourself in order to accommodate them, and so forth.

This can be a quite complex psychology for some of you, and it will take time to overcome it. With the tools you have you can shorten that time. But for some of you it will still take many years. You can look at the life of this messenger and see that he started the spiritual path consciously 45 years ago, and he has been practicing or studying ascended master teachings for a very big part of that timespan. And it took him decades to overcome certain aspects of his psychology. And it will be the same for many of you. Some can do it faster, because you see the example, you have the tools, but still it can take time. But you need to recognize that families are not forever. Nothing on earth is forever. In fact, nothing anywhere is forever because the ascended realm is constant self-transcendence.

These were the remarks that I wanted to give you for now. For some of you, this can be something you need to think carefully about, meditate upon, use your intuition. Some of you may find that you have certain patterns in your outer mind that makes you want to reject what we are saying, that makes you want to continue to feel obligated and this is then your chance to take a look at this and see that the resistance that you might have to the teaching, actually exposes the very thing you need to overcome and that you wanted to overcome before you came into embodiment.

Do you perhaps begin to see my beloved, that when you are a higher developed soul, and you are planning this embodiment, you do so from a level of consciousness, that is beyond the outer mind that you have when you come into embodiment? It is as if you are stepping outside of your outer mind looking at it from the outside and saying: “What is it in my four lower bodies that I need to resolve in order to be free?” And then you deliberately put yourself in situations where you are confronted with these issues, so you cannot ignore them.

But then when you do come into embodiment, you are now coming into the very outer mind and you are now looking at the tendencies that you decided you wanted to resolve from inside. You are colored by the perception filter, by the separate selves, by the beliefs. And this is why my beloved, many times when you hear a spiritual teaching that is designed to set you free, your outer mind will resist and object to the teaching, will reason against the teaching and try to come up with all manner of arguments for why you should ignore it. Of course, the fallen beings will try to influence you in this way, they will often use other people to influence you in this way, so that you ignore the teaching.

Many, many people have been in the situation, that they have found the spiritual path, they have felt this great pull from within to engage in it but they have had a spouse who felt threatened by this and have resisted it. This has sometimes led to divorces but has also led some people to decide not to pursue their spiritual growth at all, or to slow down their spiritual growth in order to accommodate their spouse. This may be in order if you are planning to have more lifetimes. But if it is your last lifetime then you cannot do this for a longer period of time. You may be able to do it for some time. I am not saying that you all need to go out and end your relationships but you need to be very careful to look beyond the outer mind and get in touch, use your intuition to get in touch with your divine plan to see when it is time to move on and cut the ties to people who are slowing down your spiritual growth.

You may very well be able to have a certain spouse for many years and it is not slowing down your spiritual growth. But there can come that point where because the spouse is unwilling to change, then it begins to slow down your spiritual growth and now it is time to move on. Many of you have already done so. But many of you have not yet for a variety of reasons. You need to consider this very carefully and you need to look beyond the outer mind. Use our teachings as a tool to get in touch with your deepest intuition that is beyond the outer mind so that you know from within when it is time to move on from your family members.

With this, I have given you what I wanted to give you and therefore I seal you, in my great love for you. Naturally I have as the Mother of God, the representative of the Mother of God on earth, I have the widest possible view of family on earth. What is my family? Humanity as a whole is my family. You can see that you cannot have humanity as your family and have the traditional patriarchal view of family. You must have a much wider view, which is precisely what people, the most advanced creative people will move towards as we move further into the golden age.

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